In today’s world, it can feel overwhelming and frightening. Whether it’s due to the constant barrage of news or the pressures of raising three boys into compassionate, courageous young men, the anxiety can be paralyzing. I often find myself spiraling into dark thoughts and waves of emotion. Yet, I persist because I must. Getting through the day can sometimes feel like a monumental task, so here are five strategies I employ to manage my anxiety while still being the parent my children need.
1. Focus on What You Can Control
This is a crucial lesson I’ve learned. My father always emphasized that we can only truly control about 10% of what happens in our lives. This small percentage involves choices like where to live and what career path to take. The rest? It’s beyond our influence. Recently, when there was a tornado watch in our area, instead of imagining worst-case scenarios, I prepped some flashlights and snacks in the basement just in case. It’s vital to direct your worry towards what you can actually manage.
2. Assess the Likelihood of Your Fears
When my husband took our kids to an amusement park, I found myself losing sleep over the possibility of something terrible happening there. However, I had to pause and think: What are the actual chances of those fears materializing? The risk of them enjoying their day far outweighed any dangers. I reminded myself to concentrate on the joy and laughter they would share, and that’s precisely what happened.
3. Convey Your Love Daily
Our mornings may be chaotic, but I have a rule: no one leaves the house without a heartfelt goodbye. It’s a moment for a hug, a kiss, and a reminder that I love them. This routine, even amidst chaos, reinforces our connection. If the unthinkable were to occur, at least our last exchange would have been filled with love.
4. Savor the Little Moments
Life is stitched together by small instances. Take the time to appreciate them—watch your little one’s hands as they try to eat a meal or listen to their endless questions about the world. These fragments of daily life anchor us and remind us to cherish the present rather than dwell in fear.
5. Look for the Good Amid the Bad
I recently came across a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Be silly. Be honest. Be kind.” This simple yet profound message resonates with what I wish to instill in my boys. We turned it into a fun craft, showcasing their handprints alongside the quote, which now hangs in our playroom as a daily reminder. While it’s essential to stay aware of the world around us, it’s equally important to promote kindness and positivity.
Reflecting on a poignant conversation with my mother about facing life’s challenges, she said, “You go on. Because you have to.” How true that is. So, take a deep breath, open the door, and say “I love you” as you step into the day.
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Summary:
Navigating parenting in an anxiety-ridden world can be daunting, but focusing on what you can control, assessing fear probabilities, expressing love daily, cherishing little moments, and fostering positivity can help. Ultimately, it’s about moving forward with love and resilience.