Dear friends and colleagues,
It’s time for an honest conversation. We are losing ground. We can discuss the reasons behind this—whether it’s perception versus reality, media portrayal, or unrealistic expectations. But the stark reality is that many families with special needs members are hesitant to call for help when they need it most. They fear we may cause them harm, judge their circumstances, or even take their children away. This situation is both heartbreaking and unacceptable, and I trust you feel the same way.
I’m going to share something personal: I’m afraid too. As a senior officer in my department responsible for training, I know how much power we hold over the lives of others, and that power can be intimidating—both for us and for the families we serve.
We are united in purpose. I would go to great lengths for you, and now I’m asking for a favor. When you are called to assist families during their most vulnerable moments, recognize the immense courage it takes for them to dial 911 in a crisis. Resist the urge to judge or distance yourself from them. I am a devoted father, and my wife is a caring mother. We are fortunate to have a strong support network. But if you were to judge me based on any of the four occasions I have lost sight of my son, you might conclude that I’m not fit to be a parent.
Families like mine are on high alert 24/7. It’s been over a decade since my wife and I enjoyed a peaceful meal together at a family gathering. We take turns watching our son, sleeping in shifts, always listening for the sound of the door latch, not because we fear intruders, but because we worry about our son wandering off. We’re constantly aware of the sideways glances and judgments from strangers. Even a simple outing to the grocery store requires meticulous planning. This takes a toll.
I’m not here to seek your sympathy; this isn’t a tragedy. There are far greater tragedies in the world, like leukemia. Instead, this is a challenge, and there are times when our best efforts fall short. Sometimes, we truly need your assistance.
I am your greatest supporter and advocate. I believe in you wholeheartedly, and I want the world to see you as the Good Guys you are. However, public perception can shift rapidly with a single negative story. Please keep your hearts and minds open; learn about our experiences. Approach us with genuine empathy and curiosity. We need you more than you realize.
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In summary, let’s work together to break down the barriers of fear and misunderstanding. By fostering a spirit of cooperation and compassion, we can create a safer environment for everyone, especially those with special needs.