We’ve all heard about Jamie Collins, that former model who stirred up a major controversy by sharing a photo of an unsuspecting naked woman in a gym locker room. After we collectively picked our jaws up off the floor from the sheer insensitivity of the act, I couldn’t help but think, “What if that were me?” It’s an absolutely terrifying thought.
Usually, while I’m showering at the gym, I’m feeling pretty good about myself, thinking things like, “You crushed that workout today!” The idea that all those empowering feelings could be shattered by a photo of my naked body splashed across social media, with a caption from a model saying, “If I can’t unsee this, then neither can you,” is gut-wrenching. I’m not ashamed to say that could cause some serious emotional distress. I just hope the woman in the picture is either tougher than I am or blissfully unaware of the situation.
Let’s be honest; we already have enough reasons to avoid the gym. It demands time, effort, money, and now we have to worry about models taking pictures of us while we’re just trying to get fit? Seriously?
I say, enough of that, Jamie Collins and others like her. Not all of us have perfect bodies, but we are doing our best to feel good about ourselves! We exercise to relieve stress, stay healthy, and maybe indulge in a margarita or two guilt-free. Many of us who muster the motivation to hit the gym or go for a run have faced significant challenges, including bringing new life into the world. Every day, I grapple with the reality that my body has changed; my belly button looks a little off, and my breasts have definitely sagged a bit. Yep, they resemble geese more than ever.
The body that Jamie Collins chose to shame is a canvas of our collective experiences. Every inch holds stories of heartbreak, triumphs, and all the messy moments in between. Our hips might be wider now, thanks to childbirth, but they’ve also carried us through countless memorable moments—whether that’s running after a toddler or completing another mile on the treadmill.
Our arms may have a little jiggle, but they’re capable of lifting a sleeping child and an armful of groceries. Our breasts may sag from the hours we spent nursing, and our bellies bear the marks of our journeys. Our hair might appear messy because our lives are filled with responsibilities beyond ourselves. And sure, our backsides might not look like they did in our 20s, but they can still squat and dash after kids who are suddenly running towards danger.
That woman’s body you chose to humiliate has a story you’ll never know—just like all of ours. We go to the gym not to erase our narratives but to embrace our strength. If you spot a woman at the gym, especially a mom, recognize the monumental effort it took to get her there. Please don’t belittle the steps we are taking to become better versions of ourselves.
And if you feel the need to degrade someone in a space where we should all feel safe, maybe it’s time to reflect on what’s happening inside you. Just be careful—you might not like what you see.
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In summary, don’t let negativity deter you from your goals. Every body tells a story, and the journey to wellness is worth it.