Every parent has a backstory—a time before they became responsible caregivers. While we may not often discuss our past escapades, the truth is that we’ve all been through wild phases, made questionable choices, and done things we’re not proud of. As a parent, my greatest wish is for my children to learn from my missteps and not repeat them.
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I Don’t Want Them to Be Mean to Others
In college, I remember a couple of classmates who annoyed us with their incessant chatter about themselves. Instead of being kind, we chose to mock them. I deeply regret being part of that bullying scene, and I hope my kids choose empathy over exclusion. -
I Don’t Want Them to Drink Excessively
There was a time when my friend Kayla and I got so drunk that we ended up causing chaos at a party, including setting tiny fires on a table. Not only did we damage property, but we also left behind a mess that was someone else’s responsibility. As a parent today, I understand how irresponsible and uncool that was. -
I Don’t Want Them to Experiment with Drugs
During my youth, it was often easier to find marijuana than it was to obtain alcohol, leading me down a path of bad choices. I also picked up smoking, which only added to my regrets. My hope is for my children to avoid these substances altogether, especially since getting caught can have serious academic consequences. -
I Don’t Want Them to Engage in Casual Sex
I’ve had moments where I was intimate with people I didn’t genuinely care for, only to feel lonely afterward. While I respect everyone’s choices regarding their bodies, I want my kids to understand the significance of sex and to reserve it for meaningful relationships. -
I Don’t Want Them to Take Education Lightly
For me, school was just a backdrop for socializing. I could have excelled academically if I’d taken my education more seriously. I hope my kids recognize the value of their studies and don’t squander their time or tuition. -
I Don’t Want Them to Neglect Friendships for Relationships
I often prioritized romantic interests over my friendships, which led to lost connections with some amazing people. I hope my children will maintain their friendships while navigating their relationships, understanding the importance of a balanced social life. -
I Don’t Want Them to Change Themselves for a Partner
Once, I pretended to love movies just because my boyfriend did. In reality, I couldn’t sit through them! It’s easy to lose oneself in a relationship, but I hope my kids remain true to themselves and their interests. -
I Don’t Want Them to Overspend
I once spent so much on dining out that I ended up bouncing checks for essentials. This was a hard lesson about budgeting that I wish to spare my kids. I hope they learn to manage their finances wisely. -
I Don’t Want Them to Drive Recklessly
I used to speed down highways without a care, which is a dangerous habit. I hope my kids understand the importance of safe driving and keep their phones away while behind the wheel—a text can wait. -
I Don’t Want Them to Act Impulsively
In my younger days, I participated in silly dares like streaking. While I mostly kept it indoors, I’ve seen others face serious consequences for similar antics. I hope my children think twice before acting on impulse.
Ultimately, I know my kids will make their own mistakes, and that’s part of growing up. I just wish for them to learn valuable lessons from mine and forge their own paths—hopefully avoiding some of the pitfalls I encountered.
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