Pregnancy can be an exhilarating experience, but for some, it comes with the challenge of severe morning sickness or hyperemesis gravidarum (HG). This condition affects about 3% of pregnant women, leading to extreme nausea and vomiting. I experienced HG during all four of my pregnancies, each time varying in intensity but equally draining. Unlike typical morning sickness, HG is a serious ailment, and it’s disheartening that many people don’t grasp its severity. When Kate Middleton was hospitalized for HG, I hoped it would raise awareness, but unfortunately, some people still say the most thoughtless things. Here are ten comments you should definitely avoid:
- “Just eat crackers before you get out of bed.”
Oh really? Why didn’t I think of that? If only I had the energy to chew anything other than despair. - “Being really sick means the baby is healthy.”
Nope! It just means I’m feeling utterly miserable. There’s no correlation between nausea and a healthy pregnancy. - “If you’re really sick, it’s a girl!”
I had HG four times and had four boys. So, there’s that myth debunked! - “You’ll forget all about this once the baby is here!”
True, to some extent. But I’ve documented my struggles, so if I ever think about having another baby, I can remind myself of the reality. - “You can’t lose weight while pregnant and have a healthy baby.”
Actually, you can. Trust me, there are times when it’s possible to gain weight rapidly when you can eat. - “If you don’t eat anything, your baby won’t grow.”
The human body is incredible. It can utilize fat and muscle stores to support a growing baby, even when your diet consists of popsicles. - “It never lasts all nine months. You’ll feel better in a couple of weeks.”
Not necessarily true. Puking at nine months is a whole new level of fun! - “That medicine you’re taking for nausea isn’t good for you or the baby.”
Actually, modern medicine suggests otherwise, and I can attest to having healthy boys after taking it. - “Are you enjoying your pregnancy? Isn’t it the best?”
Oh yes, it’s a blast! Experiencing this miracle while being bedridden and unable to care for my other kids? Just delightful!
So what should you say instead? Simply ask, “How can I help you?” and follow through with whatever she needs. Whether it’s shopping for various drinks or cooking bland foods, your support means the world. And the silver lining? HG has an end date, which is when you finally meet your little one.
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In summary, being empathetic and supportive during pregnancy—especially when facing severe morning sickness—is crucial. Avoiding insensitive comments and offering genuine help can make a significant difference for expectant mothers.