I see you glancing my way, and I can sense that knowing look in your eyes. I can feel the stress radiating off me as I navigate the chaos of motherhood under your watchful gaze. Let’s be real—I’m in a bit of a frenzy right now. The truth is, your thoughts are probably along the lines of: “I could handle this better.” And honestly, you might just be right.
When You Spot Me at the Store
When you spot me at the store, frantically saying, “No, we can’t stop at the Dollar Spot, and seriously, if you ask one more time, I might just sell all your toys,” I know you could do better.
Fidgeting Kids in Church
You might see my kids fidgeting and giggling in church while I’m out of ideas on how to shush them, and you think you could manage that situation more gracefully.
Teenage Eye-Rolls
When my teenager rolls her eyes at me in the mall and I choose to walk away, I can almost hear your internal monologue saying, “I would handle that differently.”
Major Fits Over Legos
And when my little one is throwing a major fit over Legos in the toy aisle, and I give in to buy him what he wants, I bet you’re thinking you’d make a different choice.
Understanding the Struggles
Here’s the thing: You probably have reasons that make you feel you could do better. Maybe you had a full night’s sleep, or your kids are older and you’ve got years of wisdom on your side. Perhaps your kids don’t even care about the Dollar Spot, or you have an extraordinary ability to stay calm during a teen eye-roll.
But let’s not forget—just because you might have more coffee under your belt doesn’t mean you love these kids any more than I do. We might not even know each other, and honestly, I probably love my kids more than you do because you don’t even know their names.
A Call for Grace
So while it’s easy to think, “I’d never do that,” remember that this journey is mine to navigate. We all need a little grace, both as parents and as kids, especially in public spaces. Every outing is a reminder that I’m still learning, and yes, sometimes that learning happens right in front of others. The world is our classroom, and we’re all figuring it out as we go.
And hey, if you happen to learn a thing or two by watching my blunders, consider it a free lesson from me (though I might deserve a little entertainment fee for it!). Just remember, there’s a lot you don’t see behind the scenes.
Behind the Scenes
You don’t know that the fidgety kid in church is struggling with grief after we lost our dog just days ago. That eye-rolling teenager is with me because she was left out of a sleepover last night, and it’s okay for her to take that frustration out on me. My little one is grappling with speech difficulties, making it hard for him to express himself, and I’m running on just a few hours of sleep while juggling a full-time job and five kids.
We’re All Doing Our Best
So yes, you might be right that you could do better in those hectic moments, but just know I’m doing my best for my children, as I’m sure you are for yours too. Next time you see a mom struggling with a crying toddler in the grocery store, let’s choose to extend a little trust her way. She has her reasons, and we can go about our day without worrying about her parenting skills.
And if I ever catch sight of your child licking the shopping cart while another calls you a name for not buying candy right at their eye level, I’ll give you a wink and a smile because I know you’re doing your best too. I’ll understand that the licking child is just having a tough day and that the sassy one probably picked up that word from a cartoon. We’re all in this together, and a little grace goes a long way—there’s more than enough to share.
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In Summary
Let’s remember that parenting is a shared struggle. Each of us has our own challenges that others may not see, and a little compassion can make all the difference. Together, we can navigate this parenting journey with love and grace.