The other day, I finally managed to catch up with my best friend, and let me tell you, that in itself felt like a miracle—especially if you’re a mom who knows how rare moments like these can be.
I’m a single mom to three boys, while my friend Emma is navigating the wild world of toddlerhood with her soon-to-be two-year-old and another baby on the way. Even though we’re miles apart, our communication these days mostly consists of sending each other telepathic signals and hoping we sync up at the right moment. In the midst of motherhood’s chaos, we know that “somewhere out there, beneath the pale moonlight, someone’s thinking of me, and loving me tonight.”
As my boys are a bit older, Emma reached out for advice on handling toddler tantrums. (Cue the sleep-deprived chuckles!) She shared some of the recent antics of her little one: throwing food and utensils during meals, ignoring instructions, and treating timeouts as a fun game. You know, the classic scenarios that make us feel like we’re battling a tiny dictator with no escape plan in sight.
Before diving into advice, I started with the most critical part of any conversation among girlfriends: “Oh girl! Total relatable moment! This phase is tough! We adore our kids, but let’s be real—some of this stuff really suuuucks! And can we just take a moment to appreciate daycare? Good riddance for a few hours!”
I recounted mornings when I dropped my kids off at daycare, muttering under my breath as I told them I loved them while internally thanking their teachers for giving me a breather. We discussed the mom guilt that creeps in and how I reminded her to brush that off because she’s doing an incredible job.
Over the past four years of parenting, I’ve learned that motherhood is one long lesson in grace—grace towards our kids, grace for ourselves, and grace for everyone else we encounter on this journey. I assured her that no matter how tough a day may feel, she’s an amazing mom, and that each day offers a fresh start—even if it sometimes feels like the struggles just keep stacking up.
Parenting is undeniably challenging. As time passes, one thing may get easier while another aspect becomes more difficult. But love is what ultimately carries us through.
I’m not here to delve into the specific strategies for managing toddler tantrums; while we did share some tips and tricks I’ve picked up, the real takeaway from our chat was the significance of having close mom friends we can turn to and say, “I’m really struggling right now, and I need some support!”
Society often sets unrealistic expectations of perfection, and parenting is no exception. We constantly feel the pressure to measure up to others, only to find ourselves amidst a silent competition of who’s doing it better or worse. The nagging thoughts of inadequacy can be overwhelming, and when they hit, we need our girlfriends to help pull us back up.
We need those friends who have walked this path ahead of us and those who are right there alongside us, ready to extend a hand and say, “You’re not alone; we’ve got this.”
Having a circle of fellow moms means having a safe space to vent without judgment, to cry, to laugh, and even to poke fun at our kids’ behaviors without guilt. It’s about knowing that we can share our truths—like when I joked about feeling exasperated as I left the house—and hear back, “Thank goodness, me too!”
We love our little ones fiercely, but let’s be honest—it can be tough out there. That’s why it’s so vital to lean on one another, making the journey a bit lighter with the support of friends.
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Summary:
Moms need the support of their girlfriends to navigate the challenges of parenting. Sharing experiences, venting frustrations, and offering encouragement can make the journey easier. Whether discussing toddler tantrums or simply needing a laugh, having a supportive circle is crucial for every mom. If you’re looking for more information on home insemination and related topics, there are plenty of resources available.