Updated: Sep. 14, 2020
Originally Published: June 13, 2016
“How many unread messages do you have in your inbox right now?” a friend asked me one afternoon. I didn’t have an immediate answer, so I pulled out my phone. “22,432,” I replied. “But that’s across four different email accounts,” I quickly added, as if that made the number any less overwhelming. My friend just shook her head. “I honestly don’t know how you manage all of this, Lisa.”
Surprisingly, I live quite contentedly like this. As a Type B person, I’m not particularly fazed by the thousands of unopened emails. Much like I’m generally unfazed by the chaos my kids create, the dishes that don’t get washed before bedtime, or the pantry items that remain haphazardly organized. My philosophy can be summed up by a sign above my desk that boldly states: “IT’S ALL GOOD.”
Type B vs. Type A
Type B individuals are often seen as the antithesis to the driven and perfectionistic Type A personalities. We are the flexible, laid-back, lower-stress individuals. As a mother, this personality has its ups and downs, its challenges and victories.
On one hand, my Type B nature is perfectly suited for the unpredictable journey of motherhood. I can’t fathom managing three children, each with their own unique personalities and needs, without the ability to adapt. Parenthood is filled with surprises, unexpected interruptions, and unplanned hurdles. Being relaxed about a deviation from the plan can be a huge advantage.
On the flip side, I find myself admiring my Type A friends, who have color-coded calendars and meticulously planned meals. I love stepping into their pristine homes, with neatly made beds and spotless countertops. I gaze in awe at their immaculate car interiors. I wonder what it would feel like to have dinner sorted out before the clock strikes 5 p.m. I sometimes wish I could experience that organized life for just a week.
The Struggle for Order
Admittedly, having a natural flair for order and time management would be beneficial. Children flourish with structure, and that’s often a struggle for us Type Bs. We find it challenging to adhere to a schedule for long periods. Our spontaneity can even be excessive. We feel constrained by rigid routines, making it difficult to impose a strong sense of order.
There are moments when I wish I were more Type A, but I remember the times I tried. The stress of keeping everything running smoothly, constantly pushing my family to adapt to my newly set standards. I recall how draining it was—not because those standards were flawed, but because they simply didn’t reflect who I am. I appreciate order, but I refuse to stress over it. I enjoy organization, but I’m not willing to be anxious when it inevitably unravels.
I do have certain areas where I strive for perfection, so I understand the urge to meet high expectations. Yet, I can’t apply that perfectionism to motherhood. The ever-changing dynamics make it unrealistic and even undesirable.
Embracing My Type B Nature
So, I’ve chosen to embrace my Type B tendencies, flowing with the rhythm of order and routine in my life. I plan and organize, and then things fall apart. I let go and start the process anew. I’m okay with that. While my house may not always be spotless, I’m comfortable allowing my kids to make creative messes. They can explore and discover without me battling the urge to control every aspect. I enjoy late-night chats with my girls long after bedtime that could probably be postponed until tomorrow.
My overflowing inbox, while a bit intimidating, symbolizes my vibrant life—a life that doesn’t sweat the small stuff, one that thrives without everything being perfectly arranged. My children may not adopt the most efficient habits from me, but they will learn flexibility and how to adapt to life’s twists and turns. They’ll understand the essence of “It’s all good,” even with over 22,000 emails in their inbox.
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Summary
This article explores the unique experiences of a Type B mom, highlighting the advantages and challenges of being laid-back in the often chaotic world of motherhood. While appreciating the order and structure that Type A friends bring to their lives, the author embraces the flexibility and adaptability of her Type B personality, allowing for a more creative and relaxed environment for her children. The piece encourages readers to find contentment in their own parenting styles, regardless of the messiness of life.