I firmly believe that teaching my kids to share is essential, even if it’s not always easy. I’m not aiming to raise pushovers; they don’t have to part with everything they own. Truthfully, I also cherish my slice of pie, but sharing can help build their confidence and empower them. While it can be challenging at times, the lessons learned are invaluable. Here are my ten reasons for instilling the value of sharing in my children:
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It Spreads Joy.
When kids learn to share, it creates a happier environment for everyone involved. If one child is unwilling to share while another is, playdates can quickly turn chaotic with fighting over toys. A shared experience fosters connection and reduces the noise of conflict. -
I Want Them to Be Kind.
A lack of sharing can lead to negative perceptions. People often view selfishness as unappealing. I want my children to be well-liked and to grow into compassionate individuals who strive to do the right thing. Plus, it reflects on me as a parent—if they don’t share, it might make me look bad. -
They Have Siblings and Cousins.
With a growing family in mind, I knew it was crucial to teach my first child about sharing early on. This way, as our family expands and we gather with cousins, my kids can enjoy shared moments rather than creating tension that could ruin family dinners. -
I Want Them to Succeed.
Like any parent, I desire success for my children. By encouraging them to share their time and talents, I believe they will find fulfillment and thrive. The principle that what you give comes back to you is essential for their growth. -
It Enriches Their Lives.
There’s a unique joy in giving. Whether it’s a compliment or a snack, sharing enhances their experiences. I want them to learn the beauty of generosity and the happiness it can bring, without expecting anything in return. -
It Teaches Patience.
Watching someone else play with their favorite toy can be tough, but it’s a great lesson in patience. This skill not only helps them in sharing but also builds resilience for future challenges. -
It’s the Right Thing to Do.
I don’t force my kids to relinquish their possessions immediately, but I do encourage them to allow others a turn, especially when someone expresses interest. It feels right, and it’s an important social lesson. -
They’ll Face Challenges Later.
If I don’t teach them to share now, they might struggle in environments like preschool, where sharing is crucial. It’s easier to instill these values early rather than having them learn the hard way later. -
I Lead by Example.
I strive to model sharing behavior, even if I sometimes overshare! My kids see me being open and generous, leaving them little room for excuses not to do the same. -
It Cultivates Self-Control.
Sure, I’ve been known to sneak a dessert in private, but for now, my kids can learn to share. They can practice moderation and understand that enjoying something small can also be fulfilling.
Of course, there are boundaries. I don’t expect them to share things like used tissues or personal stories that are better kept private. Learning what to share and what not to is also part of the journey.
This article originally appeared on May 30, 2016.
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Summary:
Teaching children to share is a vital lesson that fosters happiness, kindness, success, and patience. By encouraging sharing at a young age, kids not only become more likable but also learn the value of generosity and self-control. Establishing these practices early helps prepare them for future social situations and builds a strong foundation for their development.