Dear fellow moms on my Facebook page,
What you see is just a fleeting glimpse of my life as a mother—a quick moment, really. Scratch that—just a brief second. The seconds I choose to share with you.
Take a look at this snapshot I took of my kids perched on the windowsill, watching some birds (adorable, right?).
But just five minutes before this, my older son was snatching a hockey puck from his little brother, hollering, “He cheated!” (he’s only 2, mind you). And moments later, the little one crumpled on the floor because his puck got lodged under the air hockey table, refusing help from anyone else, declaring, “I do it myself!”
Yet, in that fleeting second on the windowsill, they were calm, chatting about birds, ducks, and snow—genuinely enjoying each other’s company. I was basking in that moment too, so I captured it to share with you.
I also talk about the times they drive me up the wall. I usually make light of it and poke fun at their childish antics. Thank you for letting me vent. Maybe some of you think I share too much, but often I want to convey the beauty of these children to you.
Rest assured, my intention isn’t to portray myself as a superior mom or imply my kids are happier or better behaved than yours—they’re definitely not.
Some of you I rarely see, some I’ve met only once or twice, and a few I haven’t met at all. I share these moments to highlight the beauty in our lives—for my own sake. I want to focus on the positives. Trust me, there’s plenty of chaos too. I probably spend about 80% of my day cleaning, cooking, breaking up squabbles, explaining rules, grinding my teeth, and sneaking bites of chocolate. Finding joy in moments of serenity, beauty, insight, and love feels therapeutic.
I love seeing the snippets of your lives too—the sadness, the frustrations, the hilarity. Every aspect of your life is beautiful.
But I know you’re not sharing everything—and that’s perfectly okay. The world has become too expansive. I wish we could all gather on our porches and chat at the end of the day. Social media is wonderful, but it can’t replace that feeling.
I understand that sometimes you might be struggling, and my happy moments could feel like daggers to your heart. I apologize for that. It’s all too easy for moms to compare themselves to one another.
If I’ve ever made you feel that way, I’m truly sorry. You can unfollow or unfriend me, and I won’t take it personally. We’re all just trying to navigate this journey.
I want you to know that you are a brave, inspiring, and utterly amazing mom, no matter what you might think of yourself.
So let’s acknowledge the reality. I am grateful to share these moments with you, but my life is much richer, more complex, and messier than I could ever fully reveal—and so is yours. And that’s as it should be.
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In summary, we all share snippets of our lives, often the sweet moments, but behind every picture is a fuller story, rich with complexities and challenges. Let’s celebrate the beauty in our journeys while acknowledging the messiness that comes with motherhood.