Emily Thompson and John Legend welcomed their adorable baby girl last month, and since then, they’ve faced a barrage of online criticism. However, it’s mostly been directed at Emily. Since the couple announced their pregnancy, she has been scrutinized for a myriad of reasons—while John has remained largely unchallenged. Rather than keeping quiet, he decided to address the unfair treatment on Facebook last night, highlighting the ridiculous double standard in parenting criticism.
In a brief yet impactful post, John pointed out how unjust it is that Emily is criticized for her choices as a mother, while he faces no such backlash as a father. In response to recent comments about Emily leaving their infant daughter Ava too early to enjoy a dinner date, he stated, “Funny how there’s no dad-shaming. If we’re both going out, shame both of us, so Emily doesn’t have to shoulder it alone. We’ll split it.”
This statement not only calls out the unfairness of the situation but also shows his support for Emily. They are truly “couple goals,” which likely contributes to the negativity they receive. It’s not uncommon for people to lash out at happy and successful couples, projecting their own insecurities onto them.
Emily has faced criticism for various choices, from their decision to have a daughter to utilizing a night nurse, and even her fashion choices during pregnancy. It seems that some people are eager to tear down her confidence, even as John receives praise for basic parenting tasks. The disparity in how mothers and fathers are perceived is glaring. When a father like Mark Johnson bakes a cake for his daughter, he’s celebrated, while mothers often face scrutiny for even small missteps, like choosing a fast-food outing.
The unfortunate truth is that mothers are often held to a much higher standard than fathers. This bias extends beyond celebrities, as everyday moms can find themselves criticized for their parenting choices, while dads are applauded for simply participating. It’s a troubling dynamic that fosters a culture of judgment.
John’s willingness to share the shaming with his wife is commendable, but ideally, no one should experience such negativity. Every parent is doing their best, regardless of their fame or fortune. No mother should be criticized for enjoying a night out with her partner after having a baby or for looking great post-pregnancy. Instead of casting judgment, perhaps it’s time to reflect on our own lives.
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Originally published on May 11, 2016, this article serves as a reminder that all parents, celebrity or not, deserve respect and understanding.