As we document every precious moment of our children’s lives, one can’t help but wonder, when future generations sift through our photographs, will they notice the absence of mothers? We are diligent in capturing our kids’ milestones, but often, we overlook our own presence in those snapshots. As Jenna Smith insightfully noted in her piece, “Mom in the Frame,” many mothers unintentionally exclude themselves from the story.
I’ve had numerous clients request that I focus solely on their children, and while initially they may shy away from being photographed, I always manage to convince them otherwise. Other moms often schedule their photoshoots months in advance, hoping to shed those last few stubborn pounds before stepping in front of the camera. When the moment finally arrives, they twist and turn in an effort to hide what they perceive as flaws.
I can relate to this struggle. Even if my partner looks like a Hollywood star and my kids are adorable, I might still decide to delete a photo if I think my arms look too big. Inspired by Jenna’s article, I’m making a conscious effort to be present in more photos—whether it’s with my kids, my partner, or even just by myself. Here’s some practical advice I share with clients to ensure they feel confident when it’s time to capture those memories.
- Shoot from Above: Avoid the “bottom-up” angle that makes you look larger. Instead, have your photographer take the picture from a higher vantage point to create a more flattering perspective.
- Angle Your Body: Turn your body at a 90-degree angle to the camera. This slight twist can help narrow your waist while keeping your shoulders broad and poised.
- Chin Down: Contrary to popular belief, lifting your chin can create an unflattering look. Keep it slightly down while leaning forward for a more flattering shape and to avoid a double chin.
- Genuine Smiles: A forced smile is easy to spot. Have someone make you laugh or tickle you to capture an authentic expression. If all else fails, try not smiling at all; it often leads to a more natural look.
- Posture Matters: Good posture can make you appear taller and slimmer. Keep your shoulders back and stand tall—it’s a quick fix that can boost your confidence.
- Natural Lighting is Key: Use window light for a soft, flattering effect. Turn off your camera’s flash and have the photographer face the window for the best illumination.
- Opt for Muted Colors: Instead of bold patterns, choose solid colors or soft tones. A classic grey sweater paired with jeans can work wonders, especially in black and white.
- High Heels Help: Wearing heels naturally improves your posture and adds elegance, even if your feet don’t appear in the final shot.
- Incorporate Your Kids: If you’re feeling self-conscious, use your children as adorable props. Pile them on your lap or engage in playful activities to shift the focus away from yourself.
- Embrace Confidence: Think of those vintage photos in family albums. You want to be the confident woman in heels who your descendants will admire. So, step into the frame and own your story.
It’s time to embrace the “selfie” culture and ensure that moms are a vital part of the family narrative. For more insights on creating lasting memories, check out this related blog post on our site. And if you’re considering at-home insemination, you might find it helpful to explore reputable retailers like Make a Mom for syringes and other kits. Additionally, IVF Babble is an excellent resource for everything related to pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, it’s all about being present in the moments that matter and celebrating the beauty of motherhood. Let’s make sure we are part of the picture, one snapshot at a time.
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