Navigating the conversation around sex and sexuality with children can be challenging, yet it’s crucial. As my partner and I embrace openness in our parenting, we aim to equip our kids with knowledge about themselves and the world. Here are five key reasons why we prioritize these discussions:
1. We Promote Body Positivity.
My son has a penis, and my daughter has a vagina—both are perfectly normal. One day, she will develop breasts, and that’s something to celebrate, not shame. If my son walks in on me while I’m using the bathroom, I don’t panic; I simply answer his questions. We believe that there’s no shame in the human body, and while privacy is essential, it’s important for our children to feel comfortable in their own skin. For instance, my now 6-year-old understands that his room is his private space, and he has autonomy over his own body there. We want our kids to embrace their identities without feeling awkward.
2. We Avoid Misinformation About Their Bodies.
Many adults shy away from using proper terminology for body parts, calling a penis a “wee-wee” or a vagina a “hoo-ha.” Why should we feel embarrassed to use the correct names? Children deserve to know the accurate terms for their bodies and should not view them as taboo. By normalizing conversations around anatomy, we help our kids understand themselves better, without adding layers of confusion.
3. We Believe in Honesty.
I once met a parent who referred to genitalia using terms like “chicken” and “bird.” I found this approach shocking. Children should have access to truthful information about their bodies. For example, my son knows where babies come from in an age-appropriate and non-sexual way. He is fascinated by terms like “sperm” and “placenta,” and this knowledge empowers him. When children learn the truth, they are better equipped to understand the world around them.
4. Knowledge is Empowering.
While we see our children as kids—never as sexual beings—it’s essential for them to understand their bodies, especially in today’s world where sexual abuse is a real concern. By providing them with information, they can articulate their feelings and experiences. Knowledge equips them with the tools they need to stay safe.
5. We Encourage Open Communication.
By discussing these topics, we create a safe space for our kids to express themselves. They know they can approach us about anything, from boundaries to their feelings regarding sex and sexuality. Our unconditional love for them remains constant, regardless of what they share.
There are countless reasons to engage in conversations about sex and sexuality with your children. Ultimately, I want my kids to be knowledgeable and confident about their bodies and the world around them. Just as we discuss Santa Claus or the importance of seat belts, I believe that open conversations about sex are vital for their development. For further insights, you can check out our other blog post here.
If you’re interested in more resources, this site is a great authority on the subject, and the CDC offers valuable information about pregnancy and home insemination.
Summary:
Talking to children about sex and sexuality is essential for nurturing body positivity, reducing misinformation, promoting honesty, empowering them with knowledge, and encouraging open communication. By fostering these conversations, we help our kids grow into confident and informed individuals.