When my partner and I relocated to China to support her academic career, I thought I would enjoy a laid-back lifestyle filled with sitcom reruns and a cozy baby on my lap. Little did I know, stay-at-home parenting is far more challenging than I had anticipated. Here are some lessons I’ve learned along the way:
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Respect for Past Generations
Raising a child today is tough, but it was a whole different ball game for mothers in the 1950s. I have newfound admiration for the likes of Betty Draper, who managed household responsibilities while looking impeccably put together. Back then, cooking required hours of prep without modern-day conveniences—can you imagine waiting 20 hours to prepare a meal? My dinner plans seem trivial in comparison. -
Beware of “Free” Baby Clothes
When you share your pregnancy news, prepare for an avalanche of offers for baby clothes. While it seems generous, it’s really just a ploy to clear out space in their closets. Baby clothes are a fleeting commodity, often used for just a couple of weeks before being passed along. Before you know it, you’ll be the unsuspecting recipient of a pile of clothes that include a princess costume meant for a six-year-old. -
The Physical Toll is Real
My little one now weighs around 20 pounds, and I had no idea how physically demanding it would be to care for a child. Despite my athletic background, nothing prepares you for the constant lifting, bending, and chasing after a little one who seems to have an affinity for dramatic leaps into danger. It’s a workout that never ends! -
Even the Most Honest Will Dodge Diaper Duty
My partner is incredibly ethical, but when it comes to changing diapers, all bets are off. Once our baby started solids, the mess became unbearable—trust me, any grandparent suggesting bananas is setting you up for disaster. It’s a classic case of “not my job” when it comes to dealing with the aftermath of the kid’s meals! -
Changing Tables Are Overrated
Take my advice: skip the changing table. We had one for all of three months before our little one learned to roll over, rendering it useless. Now we have a piece of furniture that was more trouble than it was worth. And let’s be honest, just because it has drawers doesn’t mean it can double as a dresser—don’t fool yourself! -
Snaps on Onesies Are a Nightmare
Whoever thought snaps were a good idea for baby onesies deserves a medal for comedy. They’re a hassle when you’re trying to dress a squirming baby. Opt for zippers—trust me, your sanity will thank you. -
It’s the Best Job Ever
Despite the chaos, being a stay-at-home dad is rewarding. I get to witness every milestone: first crawl, first steps, first words—you name it. The joy and love that come from this role are priceless, even if it means dealing with a pile of baby clothes I’m ready to pass on to the next unsuspecting parent.
There are surely more lessons to learn, but my sleep-deprived mind struggles to recall them all. Parenting is a journey of on-the-job training, and I’m eager to embrace whatever comes next!
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Summary
Being a stay-at-home dad can be challenging and rewarding, providing valuable lessons about parenting, the past, and even a bit of humor about baby clothing and diaper changes. The experience is full of surprises, laughter, and unforgettable milestones.