If there’s one thing that can make me want to retreat from the world, it’s the excitement of being pregnant with my third child, only to discover it’s yet another boy. Don’t misunderstand me; I’m overjoyed to welcome another little man into our lives. Honestly, I was taken aback that the universe’s supposed 50/50 chance had led us here again, but I quickly embraced the idea of raising three boys. It feels like a wonderful privilege to help shape good men in a world that desperately needs them.
However, sharing this news often brings out the worst in people. An announcement about a third son seems to stir deep sympathy in some, followed by a barrage of comments that imply having children of the same gender is somehow disappointing. I understand I can only control my reactions, and if I responded to every offhand remark, I’d likely find myself bitter and resentful. Instead, I’ll vent here, hoping it resonates with other moms in similar situations and perhaps even reaches some of those well-meaning but misguided folks.
1. “I hope it’s a girl!”
It amazes me how often I hear this, even after confirming it’s another boy. They respond with squinty eyes, asking if I’m sure, as if they doubt the ultrasound’s accuracy.
2. “Were you trying for a girl?”
This was recently asked at a restaurant, as if it were a casual inquiry about my meal. The awkwardness of the question left me blushing, wondering why it’s anyone’s business how we conceived our children.
3. “Were you disappointed when you found out it wasn’t a girl?”
Seriously? This question feels like a direct stab to my heart. After two healthy boys, who could possibly be disappointed?
4. “At least you won’t have to (insert anything here).”
“At least you won’t have to buy new clothes or deal with teenage drama.” Any good news should never start with “at least.”
5. “Your husband must be SO excited.”
The assumption that dads want boys and moms want girls is a stereotype I’d prefer to avoid. I’m just as thrilled with my boys as any mom would be with daughters.
6. “Will you be trying again for a girl?”
Enough with the probing!
7. “When I found out I was having a boy, I cried.”
Really? You should know better than to share that with someone who is happy about their news. I just wanted to use the restroom in peace!
8. “They say after three kids of the same gender, your body resets for the opposite.”
This kind of superstitious nonsense is bewildering. Who said I was hoping for a girl? Did my smile look like disappointment?
9. “You’re losing your femininity.”
It’s absurd to think having boys makes me less of a woman. Moms of boys can be just as feminine and fabulous!
10. “Better luck next time!”
There are truly no words for this one.
To be fair, most people who say these things aren’t trying to offend. Many either don’t have children or have forgotten the sensitivity involved in discussing gender expectations. I often remind myself to take their comments lightly, but there are times when I just can’t help but get frustrated.
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In conclusion, while the journey of motherhood can be filled with unsolicited opinions, it’s essential to embrace the joy of bringing another child into the world, regardless of gender.