Recently, an administrator from my daughter’s school—where I happen to be a class mom—asked me to chair the annual fundraising committee for the 1st grade. I graciously thanked her for considering me but declined the offer. I’ve traversed that volunteer path before, and honestly, I simply don’t have the bandwidth for it anymore.
Becoming a mom in my forties has equipped me with the clarity to prioritize my time. There are delightful ways to spend it (like devouring Doritos while engrossed in Orange Is the New Black, wandering through the local Bermuda Triangle of Target, or plucking the gray hairs sprouting from my eyebrows), and then there are responsibilities that can really drain your energy if you let them. To help preserve your sanity, I’m excited to share some practical hacks I’ve picked up along my journey.
Dealing with Customer Service Headaches
Picture this: your child is deep into a game of “Mommy, where are my socks?” while you’re stuck on the phone with a customer service rep who seems to be operating from another planet. You’ve got to resolve why the doctor billed you twice for an office visit or explain to an oblivious agent why you won’t be responsible for phone charges to Guyana.
Sure, the person on the other end may be miles away and have the passive-aggressive demeanor of a jilted partner (“Please hold…” followed by elevator music that feels like a personal affront). Here’s the deal: they don’t hold all the cards; you do. Just say, “I’d like to speak to the manager.” If they push back, repeat yourself as if you’re responding to a child asking, “Are we there yet?” When the manager finally comes on, share your experience and make sure to use the word “unacceptable” often. You’d be surprised how quickly you’ll get what you need.
Handling Rude Comments at Playdates
We all know how it goes: during a playdate—essentially moms bonding over wine while the kids run wild—someone throws a snarky remark your way. If you find yourself on the receiving end of this kind of comment, don’t lose your cool.
My strategy, borrowed from a former boss I affectionately refer to as “Eliza the Unforgiving,” is to ignore the jab unless it’s coming from the self-proclaimed “Queen Bee” of the group. In that case, you must stand your ground. If you can’t counter in a way that would impress Socrates (and let’s be real, who can?), just respond with a bored “Whatever” and switch the topic.
If the comment is particularly aggressive, look at her with a feigned sense of wonder and walk away. And whatever you do, don’t dwell on it later with friends. Take a cue from Elsa and just “Let It Go!” You’ll save yourself valuable time and energy.
Ditching Gift-Wrapping Stress
When it comes to birthday parties, I’m all for picking out a fantastic gift, but that’s where my enthusiasm ends. Want it wrapped? Not a chance! I find gift-wrapping to be a colossal waste of time—and let’s be honest, I’m terrible at it. Just think of all the hours wasted trying to make a present look neat.
Instead, locate a nearby Barnes & Noble. Sign up for their gift card, and you’ll get complimentary gift-wrapping. Or find a store that offers fancy wrapping services, complete with ribbons and bows that I could only dream of managing.
Maintaining Your Personal Space
Is there anything more annoying than someone invading your personal bubble in public when there’s plenty of room? I have a trick for dealing with such proximity invaders, especially on public transport. When someone stands too close for comfort, I create my own space by coughing, sniffling, and pretending to sneeze.
Not only does this effectively keep people at bay, but it also helps me dodge those awkward conversations with strangers. It works wonders, particularly during flu season.
Quickie Time Management
I understand—your partner might be eager for some intimate time, but scheduling that can feel like planning a state visit (with all the logistics that entails!). Want to maximize your time and keep the spark alive? Wait for a night when he’s working late. Get the kiddos tucked in, treat yourself to a shower, and put on your cutest lingerie (or let’s be real, the coziest t-shirt). When he walks in, surprise him with a spontaneous rendezvous. He’ll feel desired and appreciated, and you’ll still have plenty of time to catch up on your favorite shows.
As a midlife mom, I know my time is precious. And whether you’re in the same boat or not, yours is too. So take my advice, ladies! Because time waits for no mom.
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Summary
This article shares practical life hacks for moms, from dealing with customer service woes to navigating playdate drama and managing personal space in public. It emphasizes the importance of valuing your time while providing tips for seamless gift-giving and maintaining intimacy with your partner.
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