In my early twenties, I was in peak physical shape. Weighing about 120 pounds, I practiced yoga daily for an hour, and for the first time ever, I could see my abs. I felt strong, lean, and flexible. It was empowering, both physically and spiritually. However, I’d be fibbing if I said vanity didn’t play a role; I loved feeling beautiful and finally had the body I had always desired.
But that ideal state was short-lived. Life became more hectic, I let my yoga practice slide, and my diet took a nosedive. Gradually, the pounds crept back on and my toned figure softened. Then I became a parent, and, well, you can probably guess the rest.
Now, I find myself about 15 years and 15 pounds away from the fittest version of myself. With two kids and nearly a decade of full-time parenting under my belt, I sometimes lament the extra weight and my lack of time for exercise. But alongside these extra pounds, I’ve gained valuable insights. The unattainable ideal of my twenties is simply out of reach as I approach 40. More importantly, I’ve come to understand that there are far greater priorities in life than achieving a perfectly sculpted physique.
Even if I returned to my previous exercise routine and maintained a clean diet, I’m aware that my metabolism has shifted, and my body has permanently changed in certain areas. My family is known for having fuller figures, and I’ve learned to embrace my genetics rather than fight against them.
Beyond physical changes, my mindset has evolved. I recognize that eating well and staying active contribute to my well-being. When I’ve indulged too much or skipped workouts, I don’t feel my best. The focus has shifted from pursuing an ideal body to nurturing a healthy one.
I want the energy to chase after my kids (and one day, my grandkids!) without gasping for breath. I want to reach for that lightbulb without worrying about straining my neck. Waking up each day with vitality and packing my schedule with activities I love alongside those I cherish is my goal. I need the stamina to enjoy the blessings in my life and the strength to tackle the challenges that come my way.
And, for however many years I’m fortunate enough to inhabit this body, I want to feel good. Life will throw its curveballs—just the other day, I sneezed and experienced a little leak for the first time (time to incorporate some kegels into my routine!). Menopause looms on the horizon, along with a host of minor and major health issues that may arise as I age.
So, I roll out my yoga mat a few times a week and jog a few miles here and there. I eat as healthily as I can most days (because let’s be honest, chocolate and salty snacks are life!). I do all this not just to maintain a healthy weight, but because this is the only body I have in this lifetime, and I want it to be strong and resilient. My goal is to live fully, not merely to survive, but to feel amazing along the way.
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