Parenting
It feels as though the world is crumbling around me. Perhaps that’s because, in a way, it actually is—specifically, the ceiling in our living room is coming down.
Yes, you read that right. The ceiling in our living room is falling apart, and as you might imagine, that’s not a good situation.
Our little crisis began about a week ago when I noticed water gushing into the living room from the bathroom above. This was certainly not an ideal scenario. Plumbers were summoned, temporary fixes were applied, and instructions were given. Then, life got busy, and I added it to that lengthy list of tasks that I planned to tackle “eventually.” You know the list—it’s the one that also includes “clean the garage” and “donate old clothes.” It sat there, waiting, until the other night when sizable chunks of the ceiling began to plummet, and the next morning, water was once again seeping into our living room.
Now, I may be a little dramatic, but I prefer my showers to remain in the bathroom and ceilings to stay above my head. I really don’t want the sky to fall. So, more plumbers were called, contractors were lined up, and the bathroom was officially off-limits until we could resolve the mess—until showers remained where they belong and ceilings stayed intact.
As I was juggling calls and assessing the damage, it hit me: this entire “sky is falling” sensation mirrors how my life feels at the moment.
With a never-ending list of things I want to do, things I must do, and things I feel obligated to do, there never seems to be enough time—time in a day, a week, or even a lifetime. Every night, I crawl into bed with the nagging feeling that I’ve overlooked something important, as if I’ve fallen short in some way. Between homework, after-school sports, work deadlines, volunteer obligations, emails, grocery runs, and laundry, there’s always something that feels unfinished. Managing my time seems nearly impossible. What did I forget? Who didn’t receive the attention they deserved? What am I neglecting?
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all monotonous chores; there are plenty of wonderful moments too—school concerts, basketball games, family dinners. It’s all good stuff. But sometimes, the overwhelming mix of it all can feel suffocating.
Eventually, the weight of everything can become too much.
Part of this chaotic feeling stems from adapting to packed schedules, demanding workloads, and increased expectations. Sometimes it’s just poor timing, with multiple commitments colliding all at once. And it’s hard not to feel the bittersweet nature of life—how fleeting and precious it is, especially when you’re navigating parenthood with young kids who seem to need everything all at once.
Life can get overwhelming, and it becomes crucial to streamline things and seal off any cracks. I think we all know this, but that doesn’t make managing our time any simpler. I want to say “yes” to everything, to experience more, and to connect deeply with everyone. I want to fill my life with, well, life.
Yet, I’m starting to realize that each time I say “yes” to one commitment, I’m inadvertently saying “no” to another. When I decline something, I’m consciously choosing to embrace something else. I’m learning that by simplifying my life, the overall experience becomes richer and more fulfilling.
So, I’m making some tough decisions about how I spend my time. I’m prioritizing my children, my partner, and the people I hold dear. I’m striving to be authentic to myself and my strengths rather than conforming to someone else’s idea of parenting. I’m working on releasing expectations and regrets so I can bounce back from inevitable mistakes. Occasionally, I find myself throwing my hands up in surrender to the delightful chaos that is parenting.
Perhaps if we all threw our hands in the air, leaned on one another, and offered help, we could keep the sky from feeling like it’s perpetually crashing down.
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In summary, life can often feel overwhelming, like the ceiling is about to cave in. By recognizing what’s truly important and making conscious choices about where we spend our time, we can create a more fulfilling and balanced existence.