As a parent, I’ve navigated various roles—full-time working mom, part-time working mom, stay-at-home mom, and work-from-home mom. Regardless of my situation, there are certain comments that simply should not be directed at any mother, particularly those striving to excel in multiple areas of their lives. While constructive advice is often welcome, there are statements that can be unhelpful and even hurtful. Here are ten things that working moms would prefer not to hear:
- “I could never let someone else raise my kids.”
It’s not as if I just hand over the reins completely. I still partake in their lives—homework, meals, and emotional support. It’s not an all-or-nothing scenario. - “Kids are the most important thing. I make time for what’s most important to me.”
This statement is simply incomprehensible to me. - “You spent all day without your kids, why do you need an hour to yourself?”
Because after a day where everyone demands my attention, I occasionally need a moment to recharge. - “You’ll realize that no amount of money is worth this time you’re missing out on.”
While that may be true, bills still need to be paid. Perhaps you could draft my next mortgage payment for me? - “I don’t know how you get everything done.”
Surely, this is meant as a joke. - “Your kids are sick? Isn’t there someone else who can take care of them?”
Unfortunately, when children are ill, they often seek out their mothers for comfort and care. Daycare has strict policies against sick kids, and asking others for help is not as easy as it sounds. - “It must be good to get away.”
Yes, I enjoy leaving my loved ones behind—said no mother ever. - “Cutting back on your expenses could allow you to stay home with your kids.”
My kids have been in hand-me-downs since birth, and I’ve made sacrifices to ensure we can manage our budget. I might actually enjoy working, believe it or not! - “Good for you for putting yourself first!”
Actually, I thought I was prioritizing my family. My mistake. - “Good for you for taking whatever measures you have to take.”
Let me clarify: I don’t have to endure this; I get to. I relish being the first face my kids see in the morning and the last one they see at night. I find joy in contributing to my family’s well-being and pursuing my passions.
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Summary
Navigating motherhood, especially as a working mom, comes with its own set of challenges and unsolicited advice. It’s essential to foster understanding and respect for each mother’s unique journey. By reframing our language and acknowledging the hard work that goes into balancing family and career, we can cultivate a more supportive environment for all parents.