Dear Partner,
On February 17, we mark another year of our journey together. Our Valentine’s Day wedding, now 14 years strong, is a testament to our commitment. While some may view this duration as insignificant, to me, it represents everything.
It’s widely acknowledged that marriage requires dedication and effort. We’ve observed many unions falter over time, and we’ve seen others implode under the pressures of life, leaving only fragments of what once was. Marriage isn’t for the weak; it calls for a persistent effort to connect with one another amidst the relentless challenges of life. At times, we may grow weary; one partner may tire while the other reaches out again and again, striving to maintain that connection. Throughout our years together, we’ve navigated numerous seasons, learning to balance our needs and decisions while reaching toward each other with whatever we had to give.
I am profoundly thankful that our hands are still intertwined. As we commemorate 14 years of this extraordinary dance, I want to take a moment to acknowledge the unwavering love you’ve shown me. This love has not only been a cornerstone of our shared history but has also nurtured the woman within me, imparting a message that I believe every woman deserves to hear.
You consistently affirm my beauty.
While this may sound straightforward, the depth of your words means more to me than you can imagine. I believe you, not just when I’m at my best but especially when I’m at my lowest.
In moments when I felt broken—physically and emotionally—your unwavering support shone through. I remember standing in the shower, feeling fragile and vulnerable, grappling with pain that seemed insurmountable. I was far from the image of beauty that society often promotes; I felt overwhelmed by the changes in my body. Yet, your encouragement persisted. You would join me in the shower, taking my hand and guiding me through the motions of washing. Despite my discomfort and the effects of medication clouding my clarity, you remained my anchor.
With each gentle stroke of the soap against my skin, your voice assured me, “You are so beautiful.” This affirmation wasn’t just a fleeting compliment; it was a powerful reminder that extended beyond surface appearances.
Over the weeks, this became our routine. You embraced the opportunity to care for me, repeating those words that lifted my spirits and reinforced my worth. Thank you for continuously reminding me of my beauty—you may never fully grasp how impactful your words have been.
After my sister was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and learned she had the BRCA1 mutation, she urged me and our sisters to get tested. When my results came back positive, it was a wake-up call. With a family history of breast cancer and my own previous health concerns, I sought the guidance of a breast surgeon who recommended immediate action. I made the difficult decision to undergo a double mastectomy, complete breast reconstruction, and a full hysterectomy at the age of 42. It was a challenging path, but it was necessary to protect my future and my loved ones. My sister’s bravery granted us the knowledge to make informed choices, and for that, I am grateful.
Though the loss of my breasts and uterus may change how I perceive my femininity, it is your love that continually affirms my womanhood. I am beautiful to you, and you remind me of that every day.
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In summary, love is a powerful force that transcends physical appearances and challenges. The unwavering support we offer each other in difficult times is what truly defines our relationship.