When I first took that pregnancy test and confirmed my growing suspicion, I quickly realized that my carefree college days were about to drastically change. My fourth semester was beginning, and the carefree weekends filled with parties would soon be substituted by the responsibilities of motherhood, including late nights with a crying baby and endless diaper changes. While I was aware of the advantages of breastfeeding and infant bonding, the realities of being a college mom were beyond what I could have ever anticipated.
1. You Will Face Scrutiny
You might have felt the judgment of peers when arriving late to class after a night out, but nothing compares to the criticism of being a pregnant student. Whether it’s a disapproving professor or fellow students, you will quickly learn that motherhood comes with a new level of scrutiny. Thick skin becomes essential as you navigate this new chapter of life.
2. You Will Develop a Fear of Germs
As finals approach, your concern for your newborn’s health intensifies. Hosting study sessions becomes a meticulous affair as you implement strict hygiene protocols—asking group members to change clothes at the door, providing hand sanitizer, and liberally using disinfectants.
3. Your Knowledge of Breastfeeding Will Be Extensive
You will find yourself immersed in all things breastfeeding. A classmate’s tears about failing a course might lead you to wonder if adult crying can trigger a lactation let-down. You’ll soon become a walking encyclopedia of lactation facts and tips.
4. Sleep Will Become a Distant Memory
With sleepless nights becoming the norm, you’ll find it hard to recall the last time you enjoyed a full night’s sleep. In a way, this becomes a blessing—you can’t miss what you’ve never truly had.
5. Your Child Will Be Exceptionally Bright
Studying becomes a challenge with a little one in tow. As you strive to use any available moments to educate your child, you may find yourself replacing nursery rhymes with discussions on economic theories or mathematical principles. You hope that this unconventional approach will inspire a lifetime love for learning.
6. You Will Find Yourself in Between Labels
Navigating the identity of being both a student and a mother can be complex. You may not fit neatly into the categories of a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, leading to the creation of your own label: the Not-Working-but-Not-Stay-at-Home-Mom-Who-Is-Studying-to-Become-a-Working-Mom.
7. You Will Experience Unconditional Love
Your previous understanding of love will shift dramatically. The bond you form with your child is profound, representing a kind of love that is incomparable to other relationships. This newfound love will reinforce your purpose in pursuing your education and improving your life for your child’s future.
Becoming a mother while in college has presented me with the greatest challenges, but it has also opened the door to incredible adventures. The lessons learned in these early months are invaluable and extend far beyond the classroom. For further insights, you can explore more about home insemination through our article at Intracervical Insemination or learn about the Cryobaby at Make a Mom. The CDC provides excellent resources regarding pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, the journey of motherhood during college is both unique and rewarding, shaping not only your life but also the future of your child.