Recently, I visited a friend’s house with my two children before heading to work. As she opened the door, she greeted us with a friendly, “Please excuse the mess.” I immediately noticed the toys, books, and blocks scattered throughout the living room, a familiar sight that mirrored my own home.
While I can’t speak for my friend, I often use the phrase “excuse the mess” when I feel embarrassed about my own home’s state. It’s a response that surfaces when I know guests might see the unfinished chores that loom over me. The thought of other people’s homes being spotless—right down to the often-overlooked areas behind the toilets—can be overwhelming.
My friend, however, exudes confidence and composure, and perhaps she felt no such anxiety when she mentioned her mess. But if she did, I want her to know my perspective upon entering her home. Even before stepping inside, I was filled with gratitude that she would care for my children while I focused on my writing career. I felt thankful for the presence of another adult, and I knew her kind sons would brighten my children’s day by welcoming them into their play.
Once we were inside, I felt a sense of camaraderie. By sharing her mess with me, she was inviting me into her world. The people closest to me are those who see every facet of my life, from my messy hair and sweatpants to the unwashed dishes and unmade beds. In their company, I can truly be myself, free from judgment.
I aspire to create such openness with more people, but I admit that my pride sometimes hinders me. It erects a wall that keeps at bay anyone who might judge my untidy home or my post-pregnancy attire. It’s a frustrating reality, but it’s mine.
When another mother reveals her chaotic home to me, it is one of the highest compliments. I appreciate her vulnerability and wish she knew how much I respect and admire her for it. So, if I come to visit and your home is in disarray, remember—you’re not alone.
There’s no need to feel embarrassed, mama. Don’t apologize for the mess. We’ve all been there.
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In summary, the mess in a friend’s home often signifies trust and connection, reminding us that we are all navigating similar challenges in our lives.