Parenting
The Brave Motherhood Declaration by Emily
Dec. 15, 2015
The journey of motherhood is an extraordinary odyssey that requires immense courage. Taking on the role of a mother is not just a biological act; it is a profound commitment that connects us to generations of women before us. This message is dedicated to all mothers—those who embarked on this path even when they felt unprepared. The truth is, no one is ever truly ready.
We placed our trust in the idea that we would evolve into our new roles, much like our mothers believed we would grow into the oversized shoes gifted to us on our seventh birthdays. We faced our fears head-on, assuring ourselves that we would learn to navigate the complexities of parenting. What if we had never changed a diaper or soothed a crying infant? Surely, it couldn’t be that difficult.
We confronted the fear of missing out while grappling with jealousy as we watched our child-free friends live carefree lives. We ignored the critical stares from those who believed they needed to have everything figured out before starting a family, as if that ever truly happens. We are the mothers who lie awake at night, worrying about affording extracurricular activities like fine arts or acrobatics for our children. Nevertheless, we find ways to make it work. We can achieve personal success while nurturing our families, instilling resilience and courage in our children. We, the mothers who faced the challenges of maintaining romantic relationships after a new addition to the family, never anticipated how profoundly motherhood would transform our lives.
We read every book, watched countless documentaries, and attempted what seemed impossible yet was fundamentally instinctual. The initial six months felt overwhelming, yet each subsequent challenge revealed our inner limits. Daily, we cultivate patience and presence, recognizing our children as our greatest gifts, educators, and motivators. There are days filled with joy and days steeped in sadness, but in both, we find meaning.
Some nights are plagued with anxiety, while others are illuminated by overwhelming gratitude that brings tears to our eyes. We witness rapid changes in ourselves and our children, often unaware of the transformations until we reflect on our past selves. We emerge as different individuals, with a new facet of womanhood to honor and grieve, as the person we once were is not lost but transformed. Reconnecting with old friends can feel challenging; the conversations we once had may now seem distant. We strive to maintain our identities beyond motherhood, even though being a mother is a proud and essential part of who we are.
We face an unprecedented number of decisions during conception and the early years of motherhood. Questions swirl around us: Should we co-sleep? Should we breastfeed? Should we vaccinate? The comparisons can feel overwhelming. However, we learn not to base our choices on others’ opinions. Instead, we tune into our instincts and make what we believe are the best decisions for our children.
We discover our strength surpasses our previous expectations, and we are also more nurturing than we once thought possible. We aspire to be our best selves and set positive examples, all while understanding that perfection in motherhood is an illusion. Mistakes and challenges are inevitable, yet they coexist with an abundance of love and affection, equipping us to overcome any obstacle.
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In summary, motherhood is a complex journey filled with challenges and rewards. It reshapes our identities and teaches us resilience and compassion. As we navigate this path, we learn to trust ourselves and embrace the beauty of our evolving roles.