Dear Kids,
As the holiday season approaches, I know this time of year can be quite perplexing for us. Everywhere we look, we see the vivid colors of Christmas—bright reds and greens, twinkling lights, and festive decorations. There are songs about Santa and his reindeer filling the airwaves (I realize you might not even know what an airwave is in this digital age). Homes are adorned with glowing ornaments, and cars drive by with Christmas trees strapped to their roofs. Social media is overflowing with images of creative holiday displays. It’s unmistakable: Christmas is coming.
I must admit, I felt a pang in my heart when you asked me about putting up a Christmas tree. It wasn’t just that you expressed interest in having one; it made me reflect on how to explain that we don’t participate in those traditions. You won’t find an Elf on the Shelf at our home, nor will we leave cookies for Santa. The truth is, Christmas will be everywhere around you, and, unfortunately, it won’t be part of your own cherished experiences.
Not a year goes by without someone asking if we will partake in Christmas celebrations, simply because it permeates our culture. After all, Santa is a prominent feature in the Thanksgiving parade each year. Some have suggested we adopt a “Hanukkah bush” to allow you to enjoy the decoration. Others propose we hang blue and white lights as a nod to the winter season. While these suggestions come from a good place, they imply we are denying you some joy or tradition.
I genuinely hope that, despite not celebrating Christmas, you still feel included in the warmth and cheer of this season. We, too, have our own traditions, special moments, and delicious foods to enjoy during this time. We will gather around the menorah, spin the dreidel, and savor potato latkes together. We will share laughter and love with family and friends, and yes, you will receive gifts just like your friends who celebrate Christmas.
During this season, as you notice the festive signs around us and perhaps feel a bit out of place, I want you to remember that the essence of any celebration—be it Christmas, Hanukkah, or another holiday—lies in how we express love and kindness toward one another. It’s about helping those in need, appreciating our blessings, cherishing family, offering comfort, and spreading joy.
My dear ones, as you grow and continue practicing Judaism (which, as your mother, I sincerely hope lasts a lifetime), you may find this time of year can be confusing. But remember, the true beauty of this season is not in the decorations or the symbols, but in the values it brings to light. You share so much in common with your friends who celebrate Christmas, perhaps more than you realize.
And let’s not forget, Christmas is also a day for our community—traditionally, it’s a time for movies and Chinese food with fellow Jews across the country.
Wishing you a Happy Hanukkah, my beloved children. Always know how much I love you.
With all my love,
Mom