As the new school year approaches, I find myself inhaling the fresh scent of a box of brand new crayons. This year marks a significant milestone for me: my eldest child, my little star, is gearing up to start kindergarten. It’s a moment that’s both exhilarating and bittersweet.
My daughter, whom I affectionately call Joy, is a lively and spirited little one. Her antics bring me endless joy, yet they also leave me feeling overwhelmed at times. She was the baby who clung to me so tightly at the gym daycare that I couldn’t escape for more than 15 minutes without hearing her screams echoing through the building. Instead of focusing on my workout, I spent most of my time trying to squeeze into my yoga pants while waiting for the inevitable call to come pick her up.
I canceled my gym membership, promising myself that I would hit the treadmill once she started preschool. But before I knew it, the time to enroll her arrived. By then, she was two years old, and I had devoted 821 days to meeting her every need. I was ready for a breather. On the first day of school, I cleared my schedule, planning to wait in the library, knowing they would likely need me to coax her back from the brink of a meltdown.
As we drove to school, I hyped up the experience, talking about the fun toys and new friends awaiting her. Though I doubted she understood much of what I was saying, I had to try. When I posed her for a picture outside the school, a lump formed in my throat. I hoped she wouldn’t cry too long, maybe just a little, and then settle down after a few minutes. I wanted her first day to be a success, all the while trying not to focus on the fact that this was a significant step away from me.
Surprisingly, she didn’t cry on her first day. In fact, I had to chase her into the classroom just to get a goodbye kiss. The nagging mommy guilt that had been tugging at my heart faded away as I saw her happiness.
Two days without my two-year-old quickly turned into three days without my three-year-old. As another year passed, I found myself scrolling through job boards, yearning for the day I could return to a full-time job in a real office, complete with adult-sized chairs and quiet lunches. The challenges of the terrible twos paled in comparison to the chaotic threes, and I was just trying to survive motherhood one day at a time.
There were countless days where I gazed around my cluttered house, longing for just five minutes of peace. My three-year-old’s sassy remarks often tested my patience, and I had to remind myself that yelling wouldn’t solve anything. Instead, I’d retreat to my closet, scream into a pillow, and dream of a shower without an audience.
Then came the realization that my own mother might have misled me. She claimed that while ages two and three were tough, age four would be a breeze. That advice turned out to be more flawed than my one-year-old’s diaper choices. Four wasn’t significantly easier than three. Each day brought new battles—she wouldn’t wear anything except outfits with cats, and the shoe struggles were relentless.
I spent more hours than I care to admit letting her watch endless episodes of her favorite shows while I navigated job listings, wishing for the comfort of rational adults who didn’t consider chicken nuggets and sticky fingers a valid lunch option.
I used to scoff at friends hesitant about sending their kids to all-day kindergarten, proudly proclaiming that my daughter would thrive since she loved preschool. Deep down, however, I was the one eagerly anticipating a full day of productivity.
Then, in the blink of an eye, I found myself registering Joy for kindergarten. Once again, I felt that familiar knot in my throat. What if she doesn’t cry? What if I can’t even catch her for a goodbye kiss? This incredible little person I had nurtured for 1,898 days was taking another step away from me. Our special time was drawing to a close, and I couldn’t help but feel nostalgic for those jam-smeared kisses. I regretted the endless Netflix marathons and realized I needed to cherish the fleeting weeks left with her all to myself.
It’s a mix of heartbreak, wonder, and fear all wrapped into one. As I prepare to drop her off on that first day, I can only hope to keep the tears at bay and remind myself to savor every moment.
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In summary, embarking on the kindergarten journey with your child can be both a joyous and emotional experience. It marks a significant transition for both children and parents alike, filled with sweet memories and new beginnings.
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