When my partner, Jake, and I first began our journey together, the idea of having a large family was far from our minds. If either of us had mentioned wanting a sizable brood, the other might have bolted! Fast forward to today, and we find ourselves reveling in the joys of parenting a large family—it’s a remarkable experience that we cherish deeply. In a world where big families are becoming less common, many are curious about how we manage. Here are ten key insights I’ve gathered from raising a large family.
1. Defining ‘Large’ is Relative.
What constitutes a ‘large’ family varies depending on who you ask. For some, having three kids qualifies as large, while I consider having seven or more to fit that description. With my five children, I’ve come to realize that many perceive us as a big family, akin to how the notion of being ‘old’ always seems to be at least two decades older than you feel.
2. Spontaneity is a Thing of the Past.
In a household this size, everything requires careful planning. I once thought it would be fun to leave for a trip a day early. With all laundry completed, what could go wrong? It took us a staggering five hours to finally hit the road!
3. Factor in Travel Time.
If a typical family takes four hours to reach their destination, prepare for it to take six to eight hours with our crew. Frequent potty breaks, diaper changes, and energy-burning stops at rest areas all add up. And don’t forget the time it takes to wrangle everyone back into the car.
4. Private Time is a Rare Luxury.
The number of kids directly influences your chances of uninterrupted moments. Romantic time? If you can manage it in the span of switching laundry loads, you’re doing well. Installing a lock on the laundry room door might be your best bet.
5. Laundry is a Constant Battle.
I can confidently say I’ve never lost a child in the laundry room, but the risk is always there! The sheer volume of clothes ensures that laundry is a never-ending task.
6. Aspirations Shift.
Where my dreams once revolved around exotic vacations, they now focus on practical household upgrades. I yearn for industrial-grade washers and dryers, a walk-in freezer, soundproof rooms for each child, and a spacious kitchen with a massive dining table that accommodates everyone.
7. Grocery Bills are No Joke.
Managing food costs is a serious challenge. With three boys in the house, I often fantasize about having our own homestead—growing food and maybe even raising a cow—to keep expenses in check once they hit their teenage years.
8. Gas Mileage? Forget It.
When you’re driving a family our size, fuel efficiency takes a backseat. I haven’t found an affordable vehicle that can comfortably fit us without guzzling gas.
9. Early Bedtimes are Essential.
New friends are often taken aback when they hear our younger kids are in bed by 7:30 PM. It’s a survival tactic for us. The peace that descends at night is a much-needed recharge, even if it means Jake sometimes falls asleep on the couch shortly after.
10. Embrace the Noise and Chaos.
With so many people under one roof, noise and chaos are inevitable. I’ve accepted that my home will never be featured in a home magazine—it’s a place where children live, and that’s perfectly alright.
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In summary, raising a large family may come with its own set of challenges, but it also brings immense joy and fulfillment. Each day is an adventure filled with love, laughter, and lessons.
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