“Real isn’t how you are made. It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.” – The Velveteen Rabbit
I remember a time when I was a carefree young woman, filled with endless possibilities, abundant free time, and a youthful glow without a blemish in sight. My life, albeit relatively uncomplicated, still came with its own set of stresses, which I often didn’t fully appreciate.
Now, as I reflect on my journey, having navigated the challenges of raising three children amid sleep deprivation and hormonal changes, I’ve come to understand the significant weight of responsibility that comes with parenthood. I’ve learned that sometimes, it’s essential to embrace a mindset of letting go, akin to Elsa from Frozen. I’ve realized that many of my anxieties about life have eased; my priorities have shifted significantly. Though I may raise my voice more often, I now understand the importance of not sweating the small stuff.
If I could, I would share these insights with my younger self:
1. It’s Acceptable to Take a Step Back.
While striving for excellence is commendable, it’s equally acceptable to stumble along the way. You might forget a significant event in your child’s life, like her day as the kindergarten helper, and while that may lead to tears, the love will prevail, and forgiveness will come. There will be days when you excel, like preparing delightful lunches or keeping a tidy home. Remember, the highs balance the lows, so be kind to yourself.
2. Your Relationship Will Evolve in Wonderful Ways.
Contrary to what some may believe, marriage isn’t destined to become monotonous. Yes, there will be moments of fatigue and frustration, and your life will revolve around children’s activities. You may find yourself wondering why your partner chews so loudly or feeling resentful during maternity leave. However, your partner will surprise you by stepping up in unexpected ways—packing lunches, cooking meals, and sharing laughter. Embrace these moments; you’re fortunate to have someone who supports you deeply.
3. Accept Your Changing Body.
Acknowledging the changes in your body is crucial. You will experience physical transformations that may leave you questioning your reflection. Your body will no longer resemble that of your younger self, but remember that your partner will still find you attractive. Embrace the new you; bras can work wonders, after all!
4. Savor Each Moment, Even When It’s Tough.
Life is fleeting, and both challenges and joys will pass. Although it’s hard to appreciate the difficult times, focus on the joyful moments when you can. Be playful with your children, create memories, and cherish time with loved ones. Saying yes more often and taking photos will help you remember the laughter and love that fill your life.
Above all, remain open to the changes life presents. Rather than trying to control everything, allow experiences to unfold naturally. You are on the verge of meeting three incredible beings who will love you unconditionally, helping you to become truly “real.”
Enjoy every moment; it will be a journey filled with both challenges and extraordinary love.
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Summary:
In reflecting on my past, I wish I could share with my younger self the importance of relaxation, the evolving nature of marriage, acceptance of body changes, and the value of enjoying every moment. Life is a series of transformations, and embracing these changes can lead to a deeper understanding of love and connection.