When my obstetrician asked my partner and me about our plans regarding circumcision for our future son, I instinctively turned to my partner, Mark. As a woman, I realize I can’t fully understand the male perspective, so I felt it was his call to make. Since Mark is circumcised, he confidently answered with a, “Yes.” Great, one less thing to worry about.
Then our son arrived.
When the pediatrician visited for his initial check-up, we brought up the circumcision question again. The doctor explained that since our son didn’t have an excessive amount of foreskin, circumcision might lead to complications during puberty. His recommendation? Skip the procedure.
Mark had a lot of queries, but ultimately, we trusted the doctor’s expertise and decided not to circumcise.
Upon bringing our son home, we quickly became aware of the unsolicited opinions and concerns from others (which, let’s be honest, are really none of their business). Now that my son is two, I’ve heard it all. Let’s address the top four concerns people voice and why they simply don’t matter.
1. Isn’t it a problem that he won’t look like his dad?
Mark has dark hair, while our son has inherited my lighter locks. Mark’s broad shoulders contrast with our son’s slender build. In fact, people often say our son resembles me more than Mark. So, should I be more concerned about their differing noses instead? It seems rather trivial to fret over similar body parts between males.
2. He won’t resemble other boys.
Interestingly, I’ve noticed that at least half of the moms I know have sons who are also uncircumcised. Our pediatrician mentioned a growing trend against circumcision, meaning when our son reaches high school, he’ll likely find himself in the majority during those awkward locker room moments. Plus, let’s be real—no two male anatomies look alike anyway. Why should anyone be bothered about this?
3. Isn’t it challenging for boys to maintain hygiene with an uncircumcised penis?
Are you really questioning my ability to teach my son proper hygiene? Seriously? Just like I can teach him to wash his hair or brush his teeth, I can show him how to keep his penis clean. Thanks for doubting both of us.
4. What about his future partner? What if she’s uncomfortable?
Honestly, I’m still in denial about my son growing up and becoming sexually active. All parents share that cringe, right? When the time comes, I trust that he and his partner will be so focused on each other that his circumcision status won’t even cross their minds.
Ultimately, my son’s anatomy is not a public concern. But since so many insist on making it their business, let me sum it up: he and his uncircumcised penis will be just fine, thank you very much. I’m not worried, and if you are, maybe it’s time to find a new hobby or something to occupy that mental space.
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In summary, the decision regarding circumcision is deeply personal and varies from family to family. What matters most is ensuring our children grow up healthy and happy, equipped with the knowledge they need to take care of themselves.
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