Motherhood takes on various forms, whether you identify as a SAHM (Stay-at-Home Mom), a WAHM (Work-at-Home Mom), or a WOHM (Work-Outside-the-Home Mom). Regardless of your title, the responsibilities you face are undeniably demanding.
The daily grind of motherhood can be utterly exhausting, but it’s not just fatigue that keeps a mother up waiting for her teenage son to return home late on a Saturday night, despite having been awake for over 15 hours. Similarly, it is not solely exhaustion that leads a mother of a toddler to spend hours researching online and consulting with a pediatrician about whether her child requires vitamin supplementation.
What truly weighs heavily on a mother’s heart is the uncertainty—uncertainty regarding the parenting decisions we make, the effectiveness of our maternal instincts, and the futures of our children. This uncertainty fuels a myriad of worries: Did I breastfeed enough? Is it acceptable that I opted not to breastfeed? Which formula is best? Am I harming my child by giving them a pacifier or by withholding one? Did my toddler get sufficient tummy time? Are they meeting developmental milestones?
We often question our discipline methods: Am I handling their behavior correctly? Is it okay for me to lose my temper occasionally? Some days, I feel overwhelmed; if I return to work, will my children resent me for not being home? Conversely, if I choose to stay home, will I hinder their development due to a lack of structured activities? Are they socially engaged enough? Do they play independently? Are they getting enough outdoor time? Did I make the right educational choices? Is this behavior just a phase, or is there an underlying issue?
The list of concerns seems endless. The barrage of studies, opinions, and advice from various sources—doctors and psychologists alike—only adds to our anxiety. One day, we are told that to avoid damaging our children, we must do this; the next, we hear that we should do that instead. It’s enough to make any mother want to shout, “What am I supposed to do?!”
Will we always have the right answers? No. Will we continue to worry about whether we are doing right by our children? Probably. Yet, it is this very uncertainty that drives us to improve and strive to be better mothers. The root of this uncertainty is simple: love.
Love is our steadfast anchor amid the turbulent waters of worry. Our deep love for our children is the reason we question our choices and seek to ensure we are doing our best.
Consider this: Are your children’s fundamental needs being met—food, clothing, shelter? Do they understand the depth of your love for them? If so, rest assured—you are doing well enough. I can say that with certainty.
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In summary, motherhood is fraught with uncertainty, but it is this very uncertainty that demonstrates our commitment and love for our children.