When I was nearing the end of my pregnancy with my second child, I found myself on a park bench watching my 3-year-old, Ethan, play. A passerby casually remarked, “Is that your kid or your grandkid?” Ouch. Yes, I had my children later in life—my second baby arrived just before I turned 40—but I certainly didn’t feel ready for the “grandma” label just yet. While I would have loved to have started my family earlier (and so would my partner, Lucas), it took us time to find each other in the chaotic dating scene of a big city. We were eager to start our family, so much so that I was already 11 weeks pregnant by the time we exchanged vows—definitely not the picture-perfect wedding scenario.
Despite the occasional raised eyebrow from others about older parents, I’ve come to appreciate my journey. As sleepless nights fade into the past, I find joy in being an older mom. Many of my peers share this sentiment; while we didn’t exactly plan for this timing, our life experiences offer us a unique advantage in parenting. Here are nine fantastic reasons why being an older mom can be wonderful.
- Goodbye, Party Scene: By the time our first child was born, Lucas and I had outgrown the nightlife. We don’t miss the late-night escapades or the aftermath of hangovers—though I do long for the days when sleeping in was an option (getting hit in the face by a small child is quite the wake-up call).
- Excited to Be Parents: After much contemplation, we were completely ready for kids. There were no mixed feelings when that positive pregnancy test appeared; instead, we celebrated with a little dance.
- Career Stability: Having children at a younger age can be hectic as you juggle parenting and career growth simultaneously. By the time we welcomed our first son, we had already made strides in our careers and could afford to take a step back to focus on family.
- Increased Patience: My history with anxiety taught me how to manage stress effectively. In my younger years, I would have been frazzled by every little incident. Now, I calmly handle minor mishaps, like saying, “No, sweetheart, we clean up blood with rags, not the fancy towels.”
- Broader Perspective: Motherhood at any age alters your worldview. In my younger days, I bought into many societal pressures regarding looks and worth. Now, I can discern what’s good and bad for my children to learn and grow from, and I’m not afraid to challenge outdated norms.
- No Simultaneous Adulting: If I had become a mom at 23, I would have likely been learning how to navigate adulthood right alongside parenting—talk about a chaotic mix. Spacing those experiences apart has allowed me to breathe a bit easier.
- Learning from Past Mistakes: Thankfully, I’ve moved past youthful blunders—like losing money in dubious games or neglecting important memberships. Those lessons are behind me.
- The Right Partner: Not every older parent has a perfect relationship, but I believe marrying later often leads to more thoughtful choices. My previous relationships were riddled with drama, so finding Lucas was a blessing.
- Feeling Grateful: After longing for children for so long, I had come to terms with the possibility of not having them. Their arrival was a true gift, and I cherish every moment, even if I’m technically old enough to be their grandma.
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In summary, being an older mom comes with a wealth of experience and maturity that can make the parenting journey more enjoyable and fulfilling.
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