October 21, 2023
Reflecting on my life from the vantage point of two decades later, I find myself wishing I could have a conversation with my 16-year-old self. If I could sit down with that version of me, it would be an opportunity to mitigate some of the heartaches I experienced. Over the years, I have gained insights that I wish I could have shared back in 2003. Here’s what I would convey:
Trust in Your Own Understanding
First and foremost, trust in your own understanding of yourself. Despite what others may say, you possess a deeper awareness of who you are than they may recognize. You may hear people say, “Oh, you’ll change your mind,” but the reality is that you have a firm grasp on your identity. It has taken me many life experiences to reconnect with the person I was at 16, and I encourage you to embrace your authenticity. Remember, the adults around you may project their own uncertainties onto you.
Recognize Parental Love
Next, recognize that your parents genuinely care for you. At times, it can be difficult to see their perspective. They may disapprove of your boyfriend or be hesitant about you traveling alone, but their concerns stem from love and a desire to protect you. One day, as you become a parent yourself, you will understand the depth of that worry and appreciate their intentions.
Cherish Your Family
It’s also important to cherish your family, even during challenging times. You may feel misunderstood and distant from your parents, but they will always be there for you, even if it doesn’t seem that way now. Eventually, you will lean on them for support as a parent, and you will come to see them as fellow humans navigating their own lives.
Value Your Friendships
You will find a good friend who will be a constant in your life. Although your best friend may be leaving for a study abroad program, know that this is not the end. You will encounter many remarkable women along your journey who will become your soul sisters. That friend you miss? You may still be connected with her two decades from now, sharing laughter over a cup of tea.
Learn to Let Go
Learning to let go is a vital lesson. Not everyone who enters your life is meant to stay. Understanding this will free you to focus on those who genuinely love and support you. Wishing others well as they move on is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Never Abandon Your Dreams
Lastly, never abandon your dreams. Whether it’s writing, painting, or singing, your creative passions are essential to your identity. Don’t let discouragement from others, like a teacher who may not recognize your talent, stifle your ambition. You will eventually fulfill your dream of becoming a published writer and even inspire future generations.
This is just a glimpse of what I wish I could have shared with my younger self. While I may not have embraced the advice given back then, I have learned to be more receptive to wisdom as I’ve matured. We can learn so much from our younger selves, both the good and the bad. So, let’s strive to remember our “inner 16” and extend patience toward the teens we encounter.
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In summary, the lessons I wish I could share with my 16-year-old self revolve around self-awareness, understanding parental love, valuing friendships, and holding onto dreams. Embracing these insights can lead to a more fulfilling life journey.