As a mother of five and currently expecting my sixth child, I find myself bracing for the inevitable comments from strangers when I venture out with my growing family. While I’m not visibly pregnant yet, I can already anticipate the well-meaning yet often frustrating remarks that will come my way. It’s no secret that navigating life with a large family can be overwhelming, and inappropriate comments from others can add unnecessary stress. Fellow moms in similar situations frequently share their experiences with these kinds of remarks, so I’ve compiled a list of things you should avoid saying to a pregnant mom of many.
1. “You’ve got your hands full!”
While this may seem like a harmless observation, it’s something we hear far too often. A simple acknowledgment of our busy lives can quickly become tiresome, especially when it feels like a daily occurrence whenever we’re out in public.
2. “Don’t you know how that happens?”
In a world where education is readily accessible, this comment can come off as patronizing. It’s best to avoid making assumptions about someone’s situation, especially in front of children who may not be ready to hear about adult topics.
3. “Are you planning to get fixed after this one?”
This question crosses a boundary. Our reproductive choices are personal, and such inquiries can come off as rude. It’s important to respect privacy and refrain from discussing someone’s family planning decisions.
4. “Are you trying to overpopulate the earth?”
This comment can be taken as an attack rather than a joke. Families come in all sizes, and sarcastic remarks about our choices are not helpful. Instead, consider the positive impact larger families can have on society.
5. “How do you manage all of this?”
The truth is, we often don’t have it all figured out. Most of us are just doing our best to handle daily challenges as they come. If we had a foolproof strategy, we’d probably be sharing it in a bestseller rather than just surviving from one day to the next.
So, what can you say that will be more uplifting? Here are some suggestions:
- “What a lovely family you have!”
- “You look amazing!”
- “Can I offer you some chocolate?”
Alternatively, a kind smile can go a long way. Sometimes, a moment of silence is appreciated, especially when it’s so rare in our hectic lives.
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In summary, while it’s natural to be curious about large families, it’s essential to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect. Keeping comments positive or simply offering a smile can create a more supportive environment for expectant mothers.