My child is currently 3 years, 2 months, 3 weeks, and 3 days old, and—surprise!—he is not yet potty-trained. In contrast, my oldest was fully trained by 2.5 years and could sleep through the night without any accidents. This experience has led me to realize that every child is unique, and I have come to terms with that. So why is it that others seem so concerned?
There appears to be a consensus that I should be anxious about this situation. But the truth is, I’m not. The judgmental looks I receive from some can be unsettling, as they silently convey disappointment and pity. It is both strange and intrusive. A friend of mine, upon seeing an image of my child in a diaper, gasped in horror and proclaimed that she would have her son potty-trained by 18 months. With one child—a mere three-month-old at that—her arrogance was astounding. I gave her a hard stare, hoping to communicate how misplaced her judgment was.
Some individuals have suggested that my child’s delay in potty training indicates he is overly dependent on me, lacking discipline, or even facing developmental issues. They ask, “Aren’t you worried?” Surprisingly, it seems I’m the only one who isn’t concerned.
My son is thriving! He has met and exceeded all appropriate developmental milestones for his age. Even if he had not, he would still be my perfect child. He is witty, energetic, articulate, and occasionally uses the toilet. However, there are times when he does not.
We have tried various methods: Pull-Ups, underwear, and even letting him go without clothes at home. The most effective approach has been allowing him to roam around naked. He understands when to go to the toilet but doesn’t always comply, especially outside the home. No matter how frequently we remind him, he sometimes chooses not to use the toilet.
What does this indicate? Are you prepared for the answer? Here it is: He’s simply not ready. I refuse to force my child into an activity he isn’t prepared for.
Eventually, there will come a day when he decides he no longer wants to sit in soiled pants. When that day arrives, I will celebrate joyfully, performing an embarrassing dance and singing, “We did it, we did it, we did it—hooray!” My husband will join in with their customary chest bump, and we will all move forward.
Until then, I will remain unconcerned and undeterred. I will continue to support him and patiently wait for him to make the transition. My love for him will not waver because he is still a typical 3-year-old who is not yet fully on board with potty training. I refuse to feel ashamed; he is perfectly fine. Furthermore, I suspect I am not alone in this journey. Many other parents are navigating similar experiences with their three-year-olds who are also not ready for the toilet.
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Summary:
The author discusses their experience with their 3-year-old child who is not yet potty trained. They emphasize the uniqueness of each child’s development, expressing confidence in their son’s abilities and milestones. Despite societal pressures and judgment from others, they remain unconcerned and supportive, asserting that their child will become potty trained in due time.