At 35, I found myself pregnant, an experience that felt monumental in my career as an actress. In my profession, 35 often seems akin to being 40, a point where opportunities can feel scarce, as if I’ve arrived at the “Last Chance Café.” But I was about to discover that age is not as limiting as it seems.
During my pregnancy, while waiting for an audition, I jotted down some thoughts in a notebook, markers of the reality I was grappling with. Here’s my list:
- Embracing motherhood is thrilling, but it’s not the only journey I’m on. I’m still an actress, albeit taking a hiatus from the hustle of auditions.
- It’s important for my daughter to see her mother as a working actress. I want her to understand the nuances of auditions and character development; that studying a script is a vital part of my profession.
- My drive has intensified since becoming a mother. Regardless of how modest my achievements post-birth may be, what matters is she witnesses my dedication.
Following this reflection, I found myself rushing to the bathroom, overwhelmed by the physical demands of pregnancy. The whirlwind of new motherhood followed: sleepless nights, overwhelming love, and a struggle with balancing work and life.
Fast forward to today, I’m now 40 and stepping back into the audition realm. Surprisingly, during my five-year absence from the industry, I found that I had improved as an actress.
Recently, I observed younger actors in a casting room, engaging in casual conversations about their latest gigs or personal lives. I signed in for my slot, noticing the shiny new iPads replacing traditional sign-in sheets. I pulled out my notebook again (confession: I still keep my headshots in a Trapper Keeper).
Here’s what I noted this time:
- I experience a sense of calm before auditions now; my responsibilities as a mother have provided me with a grounding perspective.
- I no longer feel the need to compete with others in the room. If I’m the right fit for the role, it will be mine.
- I feel more confident in my appearance at 40. My hair, dare I say, has even gained a new luster.
- I am committed to performing well, and if I don’t land the role, it won’t be due to a lackluster reading.
- My lists have expanded to include Cheerios, sunblock, and applesauce—my life as a mother intersects with my career aspirations.
Reflecting back, my agents phased out as I embraced motherhood, my ambitions blurring amidst the new responsibilities. I was consumed with ensuring my daughter’s health and adapting to my new life, feeling my career slip away.
Now, I find myself looking at the younger actors with a sense of empathy; their pre-audition jitters remind me of my earlier self, anxious about lines and validation.
Years ago, a seasoned actress shared a poignant piece of advice with me: when you enter an audition, embody the belief that you are the solution to their problem. After decades, I finally grasp the weight of those words. I can confidently walk into a casting office knowing that I am exactly what they need.
Who knew that dedicating five years to the unglamorous yet fulfilling role of motherhood would lead to a newfound sense of youth, beauty, and self-assuredness that I never had in my younger years?
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In summary, the transition from 35 to 40 encompasses more than just age; it represents a profound evolution in perspective, confidence, and understanding of one’s identity, both as a parent and a professional.