Dear Emily,
As you prepare to embark on your middle school journey, I can sense your excitement about meeting new classmates, exploring fresh opportunities, and gaining more independence. I share in that excitement. This marks the beginning of an adventurous chapter in your life, and I eagerly anticipate watching you flourish.
However, I cannot deny that I feel a mixture of apprehension. I’ve heard numerous accounts of young people making poor choices—yielding to peer pressure, misusing social media, and engaging in adult behaviors like sexting and substance use far too early. You may have encountered these stories as well. While I want to believe you are too intelligent and virtuous to fall into such pitfalls, I also recognize the importance of being a vigilant parent who is in tune with reality.
As the eldest, this is unfamiliar terrain for both of us. We are getting ready to navigate the complexities of adolescence, puberty, and the challenges of middle school and beyond. There will be moments of smooth sailing and some turbulent waters. Throughout this journey, I urge you to keep these guiding principles in mind. Should you ever feel lost or overwhelmed, remember that I am right here with you, ready to assist you in steering your course.
1. Prioritize Your Studies.
Education is paramount. While extracurricular activities and friendships are important, they are secondary to your academic responsibilities. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect your best effort. If you strive for excellence, you will not only make me proud, but you will also feel a sense of pride in yourself.
2. Embrace Courage.
You will face many new situations—some rewarding and others challenging. When confronted with tough choices, have the courage to stand up for your beliefs, even if it feels “uncool.” That momentary discomfort will pass, but your bravery will leave a lasting impact.
3. Stay True to Yourself.
You are wonderfully unique. Do not alter who you are to gain acceptance. If others fail to recognize your greatness, that’s their loss, not yours.
4. Trust Your Instincts.
When peer pressure arises and your gut tells you to resist, heed that inner voice! We have taught you the difference between right and wrong, and your heart will guide you.
5. Get Organized.
The demands of school and life will only intensify as you progress. Now is the time to develop organization skills and learn effective time management. Avoid procrastination; these habits will serve you well throughout your academic and professional journey.
6. Be Compassionate.
Adolescence can be a challenging time for many. Remember that everyone is facing their own battles. Treat others with kindness, and extend the same courtesy you wish to receive, even when it’s not popular.
7. Cultivate Confidence.
Always remember that you are extraordinary. You possess the potential to achieve anything you set your mind to, and I believe you will make a difference in the world.
8. Choose Your Friends Wisely.
An adage from my parents rings true: “You are only as good as the company you keep.” Surround yourself with those who uplift you and share your values. If someone is negative or tries to change you, it’s best to distance yourself.
9. Know Our Unconditional Love.
Your father and I are here for you, no matter what. There is nothing you could say or do that would change our love for you. If you need advice, support, or simply someone to listen, we are always available. Your feelings and challenges, big or small, matter to us.
10. Enjoy the Journey.
You are on the cusp of a phase filled with learning and new experiences. While there may be obstacles, there will also be plenty of joy. Smile, laugh, and cherish these moments. Embrace this time in your life; it will fly by faster than you think!
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In summary, as you step into middle school, remember to work hard, be brave, stay authentic, trust your instincts, and prioritize kindness and organization. Embrace your uniqueness, and know that we are always here for you.