Today marks my ninth wedding anniversary. Living in Los Angeles, where relationships can be as transient as trends, this milestone is quite significant. Such enduring love deserves a grand celebration, yet here we are, with no plans in sight. To illustrate the transformation of how we celebrate our anniversary pre- and post-children, I’ve crafted a comparative list.
Before Kids:
In the weeks leading up to your anniversary, you engage in discussions about the best ways to honor your marriage.
After Kids:
You’ve lost track of the date and month, leading to a last-minute realization that your anniversary is tomorrow—thanks to a quick check of your calendar while scheduling a dentist appointment for your child.
Before Kids:
You reminisce over your wedding album, sharing laughter and tears as you recall the special moments from your big day.
After Kids:
Your wedding album is likely lost in the chaos of family life, possibly donated during a decluttering frenzy or buried under a pile of toys. If you were to find it, any attempt to relive those memories would be quickly interrupted by a toddler’s mishap.
Before Kids:
You meticulously plan a romantic evening out, complete with reservations at an upscale restaurant and a carefully curated menu.
After Kids:
With only a day’s notice, you scramble to find a babysitter and settle for a restaurant that is nearby and serves alcohol, rather than searching for the most romantic spot in town.
Before Kids:
You make an effort to look your best, investing time in getting ready, from hair and nails to the perfect outfit.
After Kids:
A simultaneous nap from the kids might grant you a quick shower, but don’t count on having time for anything more than a hasty attempt to look presentable.
Before Kids:
Your evening consists of a leisurely four-course meal and intimate conversations, perhaps leading to a romantic night in.
After Kids:
Dinner becomes a rushed affair, and you return home exhausted, often too tired for anything more than a brief moment of intimacy before falling asleep.
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In summary, celebrating anniversaries before and after kids reflects a significant shift in priorities and lifestyle. The carefree days of romantic dinners and long conversations are often replaced by the logistics of childcare and the realities of parenting, yet the love remains steadfast through it all.