New mothers often find themselves yearning for a variety of things: restful sleep, uninterrupted showers, meals enjoyed with both hands, and neatly organized laundry. As a new mom myself, I’ve realized that one significant aspect many new parents, particularly mothers, don’t require is the influx of cliché advice. We’ve all encountered the same old suggestions:
- “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” Well, if I do that, who will monitor the likes on my latest Facebook post about my exhaustion?
- “Sleep train right away or wait until they’re older.” Sorting through sleep training recommendations can feel as perplexing as solving complex math problems. Instead, I prefer to observe my baby’s sleep cues and follow the sage advice to “sleep when the baby sleeps.”
- “Don’t worry about the laundry; your baby won’t be a baby forever.” But how many of my dirty underwear would you be willing to wear?
Despite the good intentions behind such advice, they frequently serve the advisor more than the recipient. The following insights aren’t intended as prescriptive advice but rather as “permissions” for you to embrace as a new mom.
1. Cut the Onesie Off
Picture this: your extraordinary newborn has experienced a significant diaper blowout. You face a dilemma—whether to pull the onesie over her head or down over her shoulders. One option risks getting poop on her face, while the other covers you in it. Grant yourself the permission to cut the onesie off. It may have cost $35, but remember, babies have a unique talent for soiling expensive clothing. That once-beloved outfit is now a casualty of babyhood—so just cut it off. Always cut with the blades facing toward the feet for safety.
2. Breastfeed in Public, No Matter How Awkward
If you’re not breastfeeding, feel free to skip to the next point. If you are, you may experience moments of discomfort as you navigate public breastfeeding. It’s entirely natural to feel awkward about showing your nipples to strangers. You might find yourself caught between a desire to unapologetically nurse and feelings of embarrassment when someone comments on your choice. If someone does express disapproval, your baby will likely respond by revealing more than you intended. Embrace the awkwardness; you survived middle school, after all. Just remember, you have every right to feed your child where you choose.
3. Doubt Means Don’t
Borrowing a mantra from a well-known public figure, I encourage you to trust your instincts. In the age of information overload, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with parenting advice. If ever in doubt about a decision, take a step back and listen to your inner voice. Limit distractions—avoid unnecessary calls and refrain from seeking input from friends or online forums. Recognize that no singular parenting philosophy fits all scenarios; your child is unique, just as you are. Cultivate a supportive community that aligns with your parenting style. Engage with resources that inspire confidence, such as those found at March of Dimes. Remember, if something feels off, it probably is. Trust yourself and dismiss unsolicited advice, including mine.
For further insights on navigating motherhood, consider exploring other posts, such as this one, or delve into expert advice from Make a Mom.
In summary, embrace the unique journey of motherhood by giving yourself permission to make decisions that feel right for you. Prioritize your instincts over outside opinions, and don’t hesitate to cut that onesie off if necessary.