This is what 38 years of friendship embodies: Genuine, effortless, profound. Nearly four decades ago, our mothers became intertwined in a beautiful way, asking one another to be godmothers to their newborn daughters. Almost three decades later, we stood side by side as each other’s maids of honor. Fast forward another three years, and we became godmothers to each other’s children. The countless memories we’ve created throughout the years are far too rich to capture in mere words.
In our younger days, I admired her adventurous spirit, her innate courage, her unparalleled ability to evoke laughter, and her boundless compassion for all. These traits still inspire me. What truly captivates me now is her ability to maintain those qualities as she embraced adulthood. She seamlessly integrated her zest for life into her marriage, motherhood, and career.
Over the years, our relationship has transformed in many ways. Although we haven’t resided in the same city for nearly 20 years, this distance has only strengthened our bond. After all, physical distance is simply a challenge for transportation, not a barrier for the heart. While we may take those we see daily for granted, limited visits—three times a year—mean we cherish every moment we share.
While daily communication isn’t the norm, there is nothing I wouldn’t—or haven’t—shared with her. Our conversations have evolved from discussions about homework and crushes to topics like home renovations and childcare. Yet, we continue to converse in a shared language. The challenges of braces, heartbreaks from bad relationships, and the trials of life—from divorce to the joys of marriage and parenting—forge a connection deeper than friendship. Our bond has been shaped by both the heartaches and triumphs of growing older together.
Today, we find ourselves as mothers, often sporting messy hair and remnants of meals on our clothing (and not solely from our children’s antics). There’s no pretense when we gather; I don’t tidy up for her visits. We embrace the imperfections of our lives, our families, and ourselves, but our love for one another remains steadfast.
Our children share a bond so strong that they believe they are truly siblings. We have never attempted to correct this notion, as we recognize that family can be defined beyond mere blood relations. Sometimes, the family we create and choose for ourselves can be even more meaningful than those connected by DNA.
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In summary, the essence of a lasting friendship is defined by shared experiences, love, and unwavering support, transcending time and distance.