Dear Little One,
As I reach the 28-and-a-half-week mark of my pregnancy, time seems to have flown by. I can feel your strength growing within me, especially as you kick me right now. It’s a surreal realization that I am nearing the end of this journey, which has, for the most part, been quite smooth. I haven’t experienced morning sickness, significant discomfort, or mood swings (at least, that’s my perspective!). Strangers have only recently begun inquiring about you, and while my belly is noticeably larger, I know my experience pales compared to many others.
However, I must confess something that weighs on my heart. Despite carrying you for this time, I still don’t feel the bond that I anticipated. While I love you, it feels more like a compassionate connection, akin to how I might feel for someone I see struggling on the street. The reality is, you are not a stranger to me. I can predict your movements; I know when you’ll kick the heart monitor or hide from it. You’re active around 11 p.m. and as I lie down on my side. I can even sense the moments when you’re working to churn my insides.
Yet, despite this knowledge, I feel as though I don’t truly know you. You are my child, but you have yet to become a living presence in my life. I am confident that the instant I see you and hear your cries, everything will change. Imagining what you might look like fills me with emotions reserved for those I care for deeply. But presently, I feel like you are a passenger in my daily life (and I apologize for the stress you’ve experienced alongside me!).
I want you to know that I am terrified of losing you. The “what if” question surrounding your wellbeing is the most daunting fear I have ever faced. When I explore the roots of this fear, I realize that my greatest concern is never having the chance to truly know you. This reassures me that the current stage of our relationship will transform with your arrival.
So, why am I expressing these feelings to you if I am certain that our bond will strengthen? It’s because this is a reality that others often overlook. In today’s world of social media, the joys and challenges of pregnancy are widely shared. However, I have yet to see anyone openly discuss the absence of a bond with their unborn child. Why would they? It’s not a common narrative.
Yet many women experience this disconnect during pregnancy. A simple online search can reveal self-help articles and personal stories from those who have gone through similar feelings, only to find that emotional connection soon after birth. While these insights are valuable, they can also lead to anxiety for those of us who don’t feel an instant connection. Questions arise: “Is something wrong with me?” “Why don’t I feel the same love as others?” “Am I supposed to feel an immediate bond at the first ultrasound?”
I may not fit the stereotype of a mother-to-be who feels an immediate bond, but I am here to tell you that it’s perfectly okay. If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, remember: this phase is temporary, and it doesn’t define your worth as a mother.
I eagerly await the day when I can truly connect with you.
Love,
Mom
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Summary:
Navigating pregnancy can bring unexpected emotions, including a lack of immediate bonding with the unborn child. It’s common for expectant mothers to feel this way, and it’s essential to acknowledge these feelings rather than feel isolated. The bond often develops significantly after birth. Remember, it’s okay to express these emotions and know that they do not define your capabilities as a mother.