Parenting
Dear Little One,
You, my spirited and determined child, are now 2 years old. You defy the norms, you twist the guidelines, and often, you create the rules yourself.
Before your arrival, I had envisioned a specific framework for my parenting approach. However, the reality has seen many of those expectations altered or completely disregarded.
I will exclusively breastfeed for the first year (I did not).
You had an insatiable appetite, and my body simply couldn’t keep pace. Pumping proved ineffective, and the discomfort of nursing in public was overwhelming. After enduring endless hours of feeding, I realized that a full belly from formula brought more joy to us both. Breastfeeding lasted just two weeks, and we thrived once you transitioned to formula.
I will nap when you nap; everything else can wait (I adjusted this).
Tasks like laundry, dishwashing, and meal preparation quickly took precedence. And yes, I even had to respond to a few overdue text messages. But amidst the chaos, I cherished those rare moments when we snuggled together on the couch, our heartbeats in sync as you nestled against me. Those fleeting instances made me forget about the laundry pile.
I will not allow screen time for my children (I modified this).
Some days simply require a reset, which sometimes comes in the form of “Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.” Whether we’re at a doctor’s office or I need to prepare dinner while you cling to my leg, TV has its place in our lives. Occasionally, I need a breather, too.
I will not be an overly anxious first-time parent with endless questions for the pediatrician (I completely failed).
I once sought medical advice about your crooked pinky toe, worried it might hinder your future walking abilities.
I will not let your schedule dictate my life (I broke this).
I quickly learned the consequences of disrupted naps and the chaos that follows even a brief car nap on our way home. Adapting to your schedule became essential.
My children will enjoy a nutritious diet, including vegetables at every meal (I wish I could say I bent this, but I broke it).
Over the past few nights, hot dogs have been your dinner, and the only “vegetables” you tolerate are sugary pouches. Yet, you did manage to lick a piece of broccoli once, so I still hold some hope.
I will make time for socializing with friends (I adjusted this).
Becoming a parent transformed me; late nights and indulgence are now foreign concepts. Yet, there are moments when I crave adult interaction after a long week of toddler talk, making happy hour with friends a welcome reprieve.
I will regain my pre-baby body and maintain regular gym sessions (This has not happened).
My body has changed in both beautiful and challenging ways, and I’ve completely lost track of my gym routine. Today’s breakfast was a cookie, and lunch consisted of goldfish crackers.
I won’t discuss bodily functions (This rule was abandoned before you even arrived).
It’s simply part of the journey.
I will not be the mom focused on counting down to “wine o’clock” (I seem to break this rule regularly).
No further explanation needed.
I will avoid the yoga pant stereotype (This has been adjusted).
Initially, I resisted this cliché, but I discovered its comfort. Occasionally, I’ll take advantage of your naptime to refresh my appearance. It makes me feel human again.
My children will learn to independently fall asleep (I’ve faltered here).
Unbeknownst to me, the sensation of rocking you and breathing in your sweet scent would be irresistible, leading to cozy cuddles after long days.
So, my dear child, I’ve bent and broken numerous rules along this parenting journey. You will come to understand that some guidelines are meant to be flexible and redefined. Yet, one principle remains steadfast:
I will love my children with every fiber of my being (forever and always, unyielding).
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In summary, parenting is a journey filled with unexpected changes and adaptations. While rules may be broken or adjusted, the unwavering love for your child remains the most important commitment.