I must admit, there are days when my partner and I barely exchange a word. With two children, a full-time job, a part-time commitment, and minimal assistance with caregiving or household tasks, we certainly have our plates full. Our lives are filled with joy—our two sons bring us fulfillment beyond our expectations. Yet, the relentless demands of parenting often leave little room for personal time or connection with each other.
When my wailing newborn was handed to me eight years ago, I had serious doubts about whether any aspect of my pre-parenthood life could persist. However, after several years in this parenting journey, I can confidently state that, despite the immense time and energy it requires, parenthood has not undermined our marriage. In fact, our bond has grown stronger.
Of course, our relationship is not without its imperfections. I have my fair share of grievances about my partner (such as my current quest to get him to limit his screen time and take out the trash without reminders). I’m sure he has his own list about me, likely revolving around my tendency to nag!
Nevertheless, when I reflect on how well our relationship is weathering the storms of parenthood, it becomes clear that our effective co-parenting is a significant factor. My partner is as engaged and attentive to our children as I am. He understands them, connects with them, and will do anything for them, regardless of the hour. By being an exceptional father, he grants me an invaluable gift as well.
Here’s a little secret—his impressive parenting skills make my heart flutter and are quite attractive. (Yes, our intimate life is thriving amid the chaos of parenthood.)
I know many fathers out there are just as dedicated as he is. While being a cohesive parenting unit is crucial, I also recognize there are fathers who struggle to meet the needs of their children and partners. I count my blessings daily and am deeply thankful for my good fortune.
To My Partner and All Amazing Fathers
Thank you for rising early on weekends so I can catch up on sleep. This morning, I woke to find the living room filled with superhero action figures, a testament to your playtime with our son—Superman in one hand and a cold cup of coffee in the other. My heart swells with gratitude.
Thank you for enduring sleepless nights with our sick child, for handling the laundry without complaint, and for your unwavering support. I know I would have expressed my frustrations more vocally.
Thank you for the countless hours spent soothing our fussy babies. Your “daddy walk” was a miracle worker during those challenging evenings.
Thank you for managing the logistics of birthday parties, swim lessons, and doctor’s appointments—tasks that can be daunting. Your willingness to handle these errands is greatly appreciated.
Thank you for waking up at the crack of dawn to work, ensuring you’re home early enough to share those precious moments before bed.
Thank you for never voicing your exhaustion when you come home after a long day only to be met with demands from two energetic children.
Thank you for remembering the little things, like how our toddler prefers his pizza cut into rectangles and how our older son likes to be tucked in just so.
And presently, thank you for taking the kids out to the park so I could express my appreciation in this heartfelt note.
Fathers often receive undue criticism. I’m acutely aware that many fathers abandon their families or fail to be present even when physically around. However, it’s essential to recognize and celebrate the multitude of devoted fathers who truly show up. These fathers create lasting bonds with their children and provide them with a positive role model of masculinity.
Moreover, you offer your partner the opportunity to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with her identity beyond “Mommy.” Most importantly, you remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place.
In Conclusion
Let us acknowledge and appreciate the extraordinary fathers who navigate the complexities of parenthood while enhancing their families’ lives.
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