After a lengthy hiatus from outdoor activities, our neglected garden and lawn were in dire need of attention. We dedicated several hours to the task, filling six yard waste bags in the process. The satisfaction of revitalizing our neighborhood’s curb appeal was palpable.
However, by Sunday, I was acutely aware of every movement. My arms, legs, shoulders, and back all ached. Interestingly, my husband shared the same experience, while our children, who had worked alongside us, appeared completely unscathed.
As I arrived at the clinic where I practice medicine, I felt a bit better, having navigated the initial challenges of perimenopause and recovered from our garden labor. I got to the office early and engaged in a light conversation with one of the medical assistants, who shared a delightful photo of her 3-year-old son. I complimented the child’s adorable features.
Then came a question that caught me off guard: Did I have any children or grandchildren? It was the first time anyone had ever asked me about grandchildren. At this point in my mid-40s, I genuinely look forward to the possibility of becoming a grandmother. However, that question stirred an array of thoughts and emotions I hadn’t anticipated.
I often express to my children how much I cherish each phase of life, feeling that with age comes a richness and depth of experience. I’ve embraced every hot flash (though I wouldn’t mind if they stayed away), the gray hairs, and the muscle soreness that follows physical labor. I’ve made peace with the fact that I am no longer carded and appreciate the drama-free, assertive stage of life I’m in now.
That said, I would prefer that inquiries about my children come before any mention of grandchildren. When the day arrives that I do have grandchildren, I would appreciate surprise and remarks on how youthful I appear for a grandmother.
And if you could, please turn up the air-conditioning.
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In summary, while aging brings its share of challenges, the joy of each life stage is something to be celebrated. I look forward to future milestones, including the day I can proudly call myself a grandmother.