As new parents, especially mothers, we often crave more of everything: restful sleep, uninterrupted meals, time for self-care, and a functioning laundry system. Yet, one thing that new moms truly don’t need is more clichéd advice. We’ve heard it all before: “Sleep when the baby sleeps” (but who will check my social media updates?), and the myriad of opinions on sleep training. And let’s not forget the well-meaning reminders about laundry—if you think you’re brave enough to wear my dirty clothes, let’s talk.
In this deeply personal journey of parenthood, advice often serves the giver more than the receiver. So, instead of traditional advice, consider these “permissions” as a way to ease your new mommy experience.
1. Cut the Onesie Off
Picture this: your adorable newborn has had a massive diaper blowout. You face a dilemma—do you pull the onesie over her head or down her body? Either option threatens disaster. Instead, give yourself permission to simply cut the onesie off. Expensive baby clothes are a lesson in futility; they will inevitably be soiled. Use scissors wisely, keeping the blades pointed away from her feet.
2. Breastfeed Publicly, Awkwardly
If you’re breastfeeding, know that public nursing can be uncomfortable. You might feel embarrassed, especially when faced with unsolicited comments about modesty. Embrace the awkwardness; it’s part of the journey. You’ve survived middle school, right? Nursing in public does get easier over time, even if it feels chaotic at first.
3. Doubt Means Don’t
Borrowing from Oprah, this mantra is a reminder to trust your instincts. In a world where parenting information is just a click away, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Instead of getting lost in advice from the internet or friends, turn inward. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Seek out supportive communities that align with your parenting philosophy, and when something feels off, don’t hesitate to unplug and refocus.
Trust yourself, new mama. Ignore the unsolicited advice, including mine. Remember, parenting is a journey best navigated with confidence in your decisions.
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In summary, new mothers should feel empowered to make choices that resonate with their instincts and circumstances. Navigating motherhood is a unique experience that requires self-trust and the ability to let go of external pressures.