As I was out running errands recently, I tuned in to a classic rock radio station. To my surprise, I was greeted by Eddie Vedder of Pearl Jam belting out “Even Flow.” It struck me—when did the grunge of the ’90s become classified as classic rock? I thought these stations were reserved for legends like Led Zeppelin and the Rolling Stones. This revelation made me realize that I’m officially part of the “classic” generation. Yet, while I don’t feel older, the aftermath of a wine-fueled evening certainly reminds me of my more youthful resilience. Approaching my 39th birthday, I reflect on the lessons learned from my twenties—years filled with missteps and doubts. Here are five key insights that I carry forward as I near my 40s.
1. Embrace Your Ignorance
In my late teens and early twenties, I was under the impression that I had life all figured out—relationships, career choices, and personal goals. I was quick to judge both myself and others. I wish someone had emphasized that true knowledge is a lifelong journey. Formal education is valuable, but informal experiences often teach us even more. This understanding has been crucial as I pursue my PhD.
2. Life Isn’t a Straight Path
Society places immense pressure on young adults to map out their futures. We often feel compelled to achieve milestones like good grades, stable jobs, and family life by following a predefined route. However, I learned that it’s completely acceptable to pivot and explore new opportunities. Flexibility is key in navigating one’s career and personal aspirations.
3. Appreciate Your Body
Throughout my youth, I battled with body image issues, often influenced by societal standards. I wish I had been encouraged to embrace my body rather than focus on diets or gym routines. In my early twenties, I adopted a practice of self-affirmation—taking time to appreciate my body for its unique attributes, rather than critiquing perceived flaws.
4. Financial Literacy is Crucial
Like many, I learned the importance of money management as a teenager, working to afford the latest fashion trends. However, I fell into the trap of believing that a higher income equated to greater wealth. By 25, I had accumulated material possessions but lacked meaningful savings. It was only through motherhood that I truly grasped the distinction between needs and wants.
5. Differentiating Between Risk and Recklessness
The adage “no risk, no reward” is well-known, yet there’s a fine line between taking healthy risks and engaging in foolish behavior. Decisions like traveling alone in unfamiliar cities or driving after drinking often have severe consequences. Reflecting on my past, I’ve learned that genuine risks involve personal growth, exploration, and meeting new people—without compromising safety.
Through my experiences with young adults, I recognize that many lessons must be learned firsthand. As a parent, I anticipate challenges ahead, especially when my daughter reaches adulthood, and I may need to rely on resources for support. For now, I find solace in the wisdom that comes with age—a true gift.
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