As a healthcare professional, I have encountered numerous new mothers navigating the challenging postpartum period. Many experience overwhelming feelings of loneliness, sadness, and even resentment about their circumstances. Alongside these emotions often lies a heavy burden of guilt for feeling such “negative” emotions. While they undeniably love their infants, new mothers frequently wonder why they feel sadness and anxiety amid what should be a joyful time. Questions like “Why am I not filled with joy?” or “Shouldn’t I just be feeling bliss?” are common. Furthermore, some mothers suppress their feelings, convinced that sharing them would only amplify their guilt.
What many new mothers fail to recognize is that their deep love for their baby is evident to those around them, even when intertwined with exhaustion, sadness, and guilt. In the thick of those demanding postpartum days, it may seem impossible to comprehend that one can experience both sadness and profound love simultaneously. Here are some observations I’ve made after working with countless postpartum mothers:
Expressions of Love
When you gently stroke your baby’s hair while we converse, it reflects the love you have for your little one. When you plant kisses on her cheek each time you pick her up, that love shines through. When you express concern about your baby’s bowel movements, it underscores your dedication. When you speak to her in a soft, special tone, it’s clear just how much you care.
When you instinctively offer your breast the moment he stirs, your love is palpable. When you share stories of her sweet smiles during sleep, it’s evident how much joy she brings you. When you ask me to hold him so you can rest and rejuvenate for his care, that’s a testament to your nurturing instincts. When you seek advice because she won’t stop crying, it shows your commitment to understanding and responding to her needs.
Most importantly, when I see you transform into a mother, I can see the deep love etched into your features. You may not recognize it yet, but your face embodies a new dimension of love and care. Even if you question your feelings and struggle to see it within yourself, know that this profound love is undeniably present. As you reflect on these days in the future, you will come to understand that many of your emotions—both the joyful and the challenging—are part of the journey of learning to love your newborn.
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Conclusion
In summary, the journey of new motherhood is filled with a wide range of emotions. It’s crucial to recognize and acknowledge these feelings; they are an integral part of your transformation into a loving parent.