Dear Friend,
You knew me before I embraced the journey of motherhood to a child with unique needs. We have shared countless joyful moments and navigated life’s challenges together. Yet, there are feelings I have kept to myself, as they are often unspoken in our society. Since becoming Maya’s mom, many acquaintances I once valued have distanced themselves, but you have remained by my side.
Most days, I find myself feeling isolated. It’s not due to a lack of company; I am often surrounded by people. However, true quality time seems elusive, especially when it’s been ages since our last catch-up. I genuinely appreciate your thoughtful inquiries about my well-being, like, “How is your relationship?” and “Are you managing to find some personal time?” Our conversations mean the world to me.
I often grapple with guilt for declining most of your invitations. Therapy sessions frequently clash with the women’s events you suggest, and by evening, I’m typically too drained to join the exercise class yet again. Weekend getaways are off the table as we lack respite care. But dear friend, your invitations make me feel connected to the world. When I receive a text from you, it reminds me that I haven’t vanished completely. Thank you for your understanding when I occasionally have to cancel lunch plans at the last moment; I wouldn’t want to be a friend like me, but your friendship is invaluable.
I feel a rush of joy when you include Maya in your plans. I recognize the effort that goes into ensuring wheelchair accessibility and other accommodations, and I am deeply grateful for your thoughtfulness. Your children are naturally kind and inclusive, and I truly believe you are raising exceptional kids.
There are days when my limits are tested, and it’s during these times that your support shines through. Whether it’s sending a text on surgery days, delivering meals to the hospital, or finding ways to uplift my other children, your support is a lifeline. I often wonder if I could be as steadfast a friend if our roles were reversed.
Since our children are of similar ages, other mothers typically share experiences like potty training or school readiness. However, you celebrate Maya’s milestones, even if they come years after your son’s achievements. Many can’t fathom the emotional weight of yet another medication or surgery, but you listen with empathy and understanding.
Moms like me truly need friends like you. Please continue to invite me, to include me, and to welcome Maya into our shared experiences. If you’re interested in learning more about home insemination techniques, I encourage you to explore this resource as it provides valuable insights. Additionally, for those considering at-home methods, Make A Mom offers comprehensive kits for your needs. For more information on pregnancy resources, IVF Babble is an excellent guide.
In summary, I cherish our friendship and the unique bond we share. Your support has made navigating this journey a little easier, and I hope to continue fostering our connection.