In 1985, while listening to a Huey Lewis song, I found myself questioning the essence of my life. At that moment, I never anticipated that I would one day coach a soccer team struggling with a lack of challenges for its players. In fact, my knowledge of soccer was virtually nonexistent back then.
Fast forward to a recent dinner with my husband, where I shared the peculiarities of my day. He seemed oblivious to my concerns, likely preoccupied with the backhoe parked in our driveway, a tool for addressing a long-standing drainage problem. As we sat in silence, with our children animatedly discussing their day, I couldn’t help but ponder if my husband was reflecting on the same profound question: “Is this it?” Did he ever envision himself, as a child in 1985, contemplating the pressures of adulthood while consuming hotdogs on a Wednesday?
Embracing the Chaos
Transitioning into the “Roundup” phase of our evening routine, we rushed through tasks like packing lunchboxes, clearing dinner dishes, and checking on our pets. Despite the chaos, I often see idyllic images online of children peacefully reading before bed; however, achieving such tranquility in our household has proven elusive. Even during their infancy, our bedtime rituals ended in tears. At least now they can dress themselves!
During a quick walk with our dog, my mind lingered on the soccer dilemma. I had promised my younger self that I would avoid becoming too invested in my children’s achievements, yet I find that easier said than done. I desire for my kids to thrive, but that passion must stem from their own motivations. The challenge lies in instilling a sense of internal drive. Reflecting on the past, I realize that my biggest hurdles have shifted from practical issues like potty training to these deeper emotional lessons in parenting—a testament to the ever-evolving nature of motherhood.
Finding Clarity
As I returned home, reality hit hard. In my brief absence, a typical sibling squabble escalated into chaos, complete with yelling and tears. Climbing the stairs to restore order, I noticed my husband trying to tune out the noise from the shower. After tucking the kids in, I joined him downstairs for a brief moment of relaxation, glass of pinot in hand. We joked about which child might struggle to sleep and what homework might have been forgotten, while also sharing plans for the following day and discussing our aspirations.
In that moment, I understood the answer to Huey Lewis’s question. Perhaps the dreams I had while listening to his music in my purple bedroom were indeed about this life, filled with its own unique challenges and joys. The middle of this journey may be messy, but it is undeniably real and significant. The foundation laid over the years is crucial as we prepare for the teenage phase ahead, allowing for adjustments along the way.
Resources for Parents
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Conclusion
In summary, engaging with the complexities of parenting and personal aspirations is a vital part of life. The lessons we learn along the way help us navigate the challenges while appreciating the joyful moments.