As the academic year approaches, social media becomes flooded with emotional posts from parents whose high school seniors have enthusiastically transitioned to independence. It’s a bittersweet time for many, including myself, as my eldest child, Jamie, prepared to leave for college on a sports scholarship. The night before Jamie departed for a university thousands of miles away, I shared an emotional photo on social media, showcasing a row of suitcases lined up by his bed. This sparked a comment from a seasoned parent who referred to this time as “exciting.” While I can appreciate her perspective, it was hard for me to see the excitement—my child was leaving!
As the summer slips away faster than you can say “Finish your homework,” it’s wise to stock up on tissues and fill your calendar with activities to distract yourself during those initial weeks apart. However, it’s important to remember that despite the distance, many aspects of your relationship with your child remain unchanged.
1. Communication Persists
While my college experience included a weekly call from my mother, today’s technology allows for constant communication. Jamie and I exchanged texts nearly every day, and he called me weekly. We even enjoyed long video calls on Sundays during football season. Although I aimed my camera at the TV for him to catch the game, it still felt like valuable bonding time.
2. Sibling Rivalries Continue
When Jamie left for college, I thought I might miss the constant squabbling between him and his younger brother, Alex. However, our first family dinner without Jamie felt oddly incomplete. Thankfully, within moments of his return during Thanksgiving, the familiar banter resumed. While I didn’t expect every meal to be peaceful, I certainly wished for just one bite of dinner without hearing “You’re such a loser!” tossed across the table.
3. Refrigerator Raids Are Inevitable
Regardless of where they study, college cafeteria food tends to leave much to be desired. Jamie quickly learned that the allure of home-cooked meals is irresistible. The moment he stepped into our house, the refrigerator became his primary destination. I often wonder if the infamous “Freshman 15” is actually gained during visits home, where they can indulge in all their favorite snacks and meals.
4. They Still Require Your Support
When Jamie faced car troubles in freezing temperatures, he called me for assistance. I guided him through the steps to resolve the issue from 1,700 miles away. During his college fundraisers, he relied on my social media connections for help. Even apart, he still counts on me for encouragement, reaching out to share his achievements, whether it’s a stellar grade or a sports success. These moments reaffirm that no distance can diminish our support for one another.
5. Homecomings Remain Frequent
Luckily, they aren’t moving across the world or getting married just yet. College is just the first step into adulthood, and most kids will return home before you know it—whether it’s for Thanksgiving or a laundry emergency. Before long, they’ll be back at your doorstep with bags of dirty clothes, cheerfully announcing their return for the summer.
While they may retain many of their childhood traits, your child will undoubtedly exhibit growth and newfound independence. This transition can be a little daunting, but it is also a thrilling journey towards adulthood that you get to witness together.
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Summary
Sending your child off to college is an emotional experience, yet many aspects of your relationship remain unchanged. Communication persists, sibling rivalries continue, they still raid your pantry, they need your support, and they will come home frequently. Amidst the bittersweet transition, you’ll witness your child’s growth and independence.