As we approach the final stretch of junior year, the last remnants of childhood schooling are fast fading. The environment may seem structured, with rules, principals, and hall passes, but the reality is that these young adults are on the brink of a significant transition. The question looms: am I prepared for the final school events—dances, sports teams, and graduation? More importantly, is he ready?
Surprisingly, I find myself believing he is, both mentally and physically. It’s a mix of awe and trepidation. We’ve navigated the tumultuous waters of puberty, and now he stands as a confident young man, adept at public speaking, responsible, and even securing his first job this summer. The once frequent mood swings have diminished, replaced by thoughtful conversations about leadership and the future. This signals the beginning of my gradual process of letting go, ensuring that by the time he graduates, I won’t be overwhelmed with emotion.
Among the many challenges of parenting—from sleepless nights to teenage drama—this stage of letting go is proving to be one of the most daunting. The very phrase sends a shiver down my spine. At times, I still see the little boy who once played with trains, and the thought of sending him out into the world is intimidating. But it’s a necessary step. Just as my mother left me at college at 17, I too must prepare to do the same.
Our generation has often embraced a parenting approach that focuses on closeness and protection. We’ve been hands-on from the start, opting for practices such as extended breastfeeding and co-sleeping, and we’ve supported every activity our children have engaged in. Our kids have probably experienced more protection than any generation before. Now, the notion of dropping him off at college feels surreal, yet it’s essential.
As spring arrives each year, I observe a mother dove diligently caring for her nest on my porch. She embodies instinct, faith, and unwavering strength, guarding her young with dedication. But eventually, she leaves to gather food, and the hatchlings must decide whether they are ready to explore the world. They will take that leap of faith because she knows they are capable.
In a little over a year, I hope to embody the same courage as that mother dove, letting my first child spread his wings. The senior year will be filled with opportunities for gradual letting go, fostering my confidence in his ability to thrive independently. It’s a moment to take pride in his growth, rather than succumbing to sadness. It’s a testament to our efforts as parents, and I will embrace this transition earnestly and gracefully.
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Summary
As junior year concludes, the process of letting go begins. Parents face the challenge of transitioning from hands-on involvement to trusting their children to navigate the world independently. Observing nature can provide insights into this journey, illustrating the importance of gradual independence. Embracing this change with courage and grace is essential for both parent and child.