I am genuinely excited about your upcoming addition to our family, but there are some thoughts I’d like to share before we celebrate.
Understanding the Bond
Firstly, I want to remind you that I am his mother, which means before he became yours, he was mine. One day, you will understand the depth of that bond when you become a mother yourself. It’s a role filled with both joy and responsibility, and it can feel like a never-ending journey. I admit that letting go hasn’t been my strong suit, but I promise to try for the sake of all of us. Please keep this in mind if my attentiveness seems a bit too much at times.
His Quirks
As our youngest child, we may have indulged him a little, so he does have some spoiled tendencies. You might have noticed that he prefers things his way and isn’t shy about using those charming puppy dog eyes if he thinks it will sway you. I apologize for encouraging this behavior when he was younger; feel free to give him a gentle reminder if he steps out of line.
On a lighter note, he does have a tendency to be a bit messy. I take partial blame for this, as I often took on the responsibility of keeping our home tidy, which meant he and his siblings didn’t have many chores. While I did try to instill some value for cleanliness, as with everything in parenting, results can vary. I suspect you might find picking up his socks less than enjoyable too.
A Note on Cats
A more serious note: he once claimed to be allergic to cats, which is not quite true. He was frightened after an incident with a neighbor’s cat during his childhood, and he prefers to avoid them rather than admit his fear. If you’re a cat lover, just keep this quirk in mind.
The Positive Aspects
Now for the positive aspects! He is kind, considerate, hard-working, respectful, and has a wonderful sense of humor. I’m sure you’re already aware of these traits. You may also find that he has a surprisingly broad palate and will happily eat just about anything you offer. Whether you’re a culinary whiz or just warming up leftovers, he will appreciate your efforts. Plus, he doesn’t mind a bit of clutter around the house, so don’t feel pressured to maintain a spotless environment. He’s not overly enthusiastic about travel or outdoor activities, which means you’ll have ample time for self-care, whether that’s shopping, mini getaways, or simply enjoying some quiet time at home while he relaxes on the couch.
Looking Forward
I have been anticipating the day when my last child would embrace adulthood, and I’m thrilled that you are the one who will help him make that transition. Should you ever need someone to talk to, I’m always here.
Welcome to our family!
Warm regards,
Your Future Mother-in-Law
In summary, this letter reflects a mother-in-law’s feelings and advice to her future daughter-in-law, touching on the joys and challenges of family dynamics, her son’s quirks, and the positive attributes that make him a good partner.